Confused
Today, Tyler broke up with me. I was completely shocked. I thought he was joking at first. Less than 24 hours before, we'd said I love you before saying goodnight. He'd asked me to get a ticket to a rave the weekend of our anniversary because he wanted me to be there with him. This afternoon, he texts he asking if I have some time to talk. We've been growing apart these last few months, apparently. I didn't think so. He tells me he's changed, we've both changed, and we're not right for each other anymore. Of course we've both changed, but that's what people do, and you can't have a relationship with anybody if you can't handle change. He said that wasn't it. He didn't want to lead me on. It would be dishonest if he didn't end it now.
But how can he change his mind in so little time? He says he still cares about me, and wants to be friends after we've had some time to get used to it, but that there's no chance that we could ever date again. I was so sure, so sure, that he was the one. He's the best boyfriend I've ever had. I learned so much from him. I don't think this break up is going to be as hard as the one with Corey, but it's going to hurt more, and for much longer, I think. With Corey, I'd started to have doubts long before the end. I'd tried to break up with him and we got back together. With Tyler, there was no warning.
I called Anthony, his best friend, and had to what had happened multiple times because he couldn't believe Tyler had broken up with me, nor did he understand the reason behind it. I still don't understand. All he said was that we'd both changed, but he didn't say how, or why it was a problem. He mentioned that he was still 21... maybe he just feels like he doesn't want to be tied down while he's this young. But then, why did he call me on Saturday night to emphatically tell me that he loved me? "No, really, Karen. I LOVE you." He broke up with me now so he wouldn't lead me on, but what was the last few days? The last few weeks? Could he really change his mind so quickly, or has he just been really good at faking it when he tells me he misses me, and he wished that I could be there?
I could really use an explanation... a real explanation, with details, not just general "we've changed" or "we're not right for each other any more." What made him feel we were growing apart? How has he changed, and how have I changed, that we're no longer compatible? What have I done wrong?
If I never understand why it happened, how am I ever going to get past it?
But how can he change his mind in so little time? He says he still cares about me, and wants to be friends after we've had some time to get used to it, but that there's no chance that we could ever date again. I was so sure, so sure, that he was the one. He's the best boyfriend I've ever had. I learned so much from him. I don't think this break up is going to be as hard as the one with Corey, but it's going to hurt more, and for much longer, I think. With Corey, I'd started to have doubts long before the end. I'd tried to break up with him and we got back together. With Tyler, there was no warning.
I called Anthony, his best friend, and had to what had happened multiple times because he couldn't believe Tyler had broken up with me, nor did he understand the reason behind it. I still don't understand. All he said was that we'd both changed, but he didn't say how, or why it was a problem. He mentioned that he was still 21... maybe he just feels like he doesn't want to be tied down while he's this young. But then, why did he call me on Saturday night to emphatically tell me that he loved me? "No, really, Karen. I LOVE you." He broke up with me now so he wouldn't lead me on, but what was the last few days? The last few weeks? Could he really change his mind so quickly, or has he just been really good at faking it when he tells me he misses me, and he wished that I could be there?
I could really use an explanation... a real explanation, with details, not just general "we've changed" or "we're not right for each other any more." What made him feel we were growing apart? How has he changed, and how have I changed, that we're no longer compatible? What have I done wrong?
If I never understand why it happened, how am I ever going to get past it?