The new reality stings...but that's not always a bad thing

[anahata56]

One of the things I've found very interesting about the commentary I've read/seen regarding the new socio-political-economic environment in America is that people are, more and more, seeing the natural cycles in which all of these aspects flow. Because these cycles move relatively slowly, and often in very minute ways, we don't always notice them

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[browngirl]

Well said.

(In the late-80s/early-90s economic slowdown thing, my father was out of work for awhile. My parents are from a pretty traditional background in a lot of ways, but did my mother 'lose respect' for him? Did my father get all pouty about housework? If they did I never saw it, and if anything my parents erred on the side of telling me too much. It was stressful, of course, but at least they had enough sense not to take it out on each other.)

[anahata56]

I can't even imagine that this marriage is going to survive. If nothing else, the man has seen for himself that this woman married a paycheck, and her marriage, for her, is nothing more than legalized prostitution. Not only has she successfully ripped his balls off, she has revealed herself as a person who is prepared to pimp herself out for the life she thinks is best for her.

I don't see how either of them can come away from this with any level of respect at all, either for themselves or each other.

In the meantime, though...

How cool would it be to have a jellyfish tank!

[popfiend]

I can't even imagine that this marriage is going to survive. If nothing else, the man has seen for himself that this woman married a paycheck, and her marriage, for her, is nothing more than legalized prostitution. Not only has she successfully ripped his balls off, she has revealed herself as a person who is prepared to pimp herself out for the life she thinks is best for her.

I don't see how either of them can come away from this with any level of respect at all, either for themselves or each other.

When I got laid off in 2001, I was jobless for 2 years. My full time job was finding a job, and as I searched for a job in my field, Lisa was nothing but supportive. She was my friend and partner and I survived that emotionally because she was there. She loved and respected me and thought no less of me because of what circumstance gave us.

That woman is a b!tch.

[anahata56]

I couldn't believe this

[popfiend]

I did break.

I lost it a few times and felt like less of a person.

She just put me back together.

And she had a medical scare in mid 2003 and I had to be there for her.

We're a team.

I thought that was the way it's supposed to work.

[anahata56]

It is the way it's supposed to work. That is, in fact, what makes it work.

Which is why I don't see this couple actually working.

It's why you're still married. It's why I'm still married. It's why my grandparents were still married after 70-some years, and why my parents are still married after 50-some. (Although both my parents will tell you that the secret to a lengthy marriage is knowing when to keep your mouth shut, they will both confirm that it's a little more than that!)

I don't know whether people don't ever learn that, or whether they forget what they've been taught, but some people never seem to grasp the concept.

And I look at this beautiful little girl in the video, and wonder what she's learning.