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We got back Sunday but B's birthday activities have kept me hoppin'! I still haven't had a chance to look through my pictures or write about our trip to the Smokey's.
On a completely different topic...
I often leave my yahoo messenger on during the day. One of the perks of non-profit is that the workplace is very laid back. I'll chat with strangers as long as they respect my profile. My profile is pretty wordy, but it let's people know I'm not interested in cyber, seeing them naked, hearing about their sex life, etc, but if they are in the mood to carry on some intelligent conversation, I'm in. It points out I'm married and answers the world's most annoying question "So, are you happily married?" (and the answer is "yes", btw). I do make liberal use of the "ignore" button as my time is too valuable to waste on bullshit. But on the other hand, I've met some really lovely people who have enriched my life over the years so I just stay optimistic.
All this said, today I was in conversation with someone when suddenly they were saying " oh hell I do not mean to talk to you if you are married. I have alot of respect for the Hubby"
Okay, I'll admit that when I first read it I thought it was the most assinine thing i have ever heard. What does that have to do with anything? To top that off he feels some right as a husband to regulate who she speaks to. He goes on to say " I know I would not want my wife chatting to all these men while I was gone..." Interesting.
My own thoughts about it are under the lj cut, however, I would like to hear you're input. Guys/girls, do you have a rule about allowing/not allowing your SO to speak to people online? Do you feel threatened by internet people? Do you have fear your SO is going to cheat with them on you and if so, why are you still with a person who you feel is capable of cheating? Is there some other reason for not wanting SOs to talk online? Enlighten me!
My own immediate thoughts to this situation...
1. if you don't trust a woman to talk to others in a way that you both agree is suitable- don't marry her. You're a dumbass if you do. 2. If you think you have a right to tell her who she can and can't talk to - well you're still a dumbass. 3. I would really consider looking inside yourself and figure out what your own insecurities are that make you think it's an adult behaviour to tell a wife who she can and can't talk to.
Don't EVER assume I am that woman because I guarantee the moment you would have even intimated ANYTHING sexual you would have been put on the "ignore" list faster than you can sneeze. Oh and don't EVER assume that my husband is an immature and insecure man who has to have some sort of freaky control in our relationship. Trust me, he reaps the benefits of his relaxed and encouraging method of love topped with lots of communication. By the way, he could care less that I talk online and is often around during the rare times that I do.
On a completely different topic...
I often leave my yahoo messenger on during the day. One of the perks of non-profit is that the workplace is very laid back. I'll chat with strangers as long as they respect my profile. My profile is pretty wordy, but it let's people know I'm not interested in cyber, seeing them naked, hearing about their sex life, etc, but if they are in the mood to carry on some intelligent conversation, I'm in. It points out I'm married and answers the world's most annoying question "So, are you happily married?" (and the answer is "yes", btw). I do make liberal use of the "ignore" button as my time is too valuable to waste on bullshit. But on the other hand, I've met some really lovely people who have enriched my life over the years so I just stay optimistic.
All this said, today I was in conversation with someone when suddenly they were saying " oh hell I do not mean to talk to you if you are married. I have alot of respect for the Hubby"
Okay, I'll admit that when I first read it I thought it was the most assinine thing i have ever heard. What does that have to do with anything? To top that off he feels some right as a husband to regulate who she speaks to. He goes on to say " I know I would not want my wife chatting to all these men while I was gone..." Interesting.
My own thoughts about it are under the lj cut, however, I would like to hear you're input. Guys/girls, do you have a rule about allowing/not allowing your SO to speak to people online? Do you feel threatened by internet people? Do you have fear your SO is going to cheat with them on you and if so, why are you still with a person who you feel is capable of cheating? Is there some other reason for not wanting SOs to talk online? Enlighten me!
My own immediate thoughts to this situation...
1. if you don't trust a woman to talk to others in a way that you both agree is suitable- don't marry her. You're a dumbass if you do. 2. If you think you have a right to tell her who she can and can't talk to - well you're still a dumbass. 3. I would really consider looking inside yourself and figure out what your own insecurities are that make you think it's an adult behaviour to tell a wife who she can and can't talk to.
Don't EVER assume I am that woman because I guarantee the moment you would have even intimated ANYTHING sexual you would have been put on the "ignore" list faster than you can sneeze. Oh and don't EVER assume that my husband is an immature and insecure man who has to have some sort of freaky control in our relationship. Trust me, he reaps the benefits of his relaxed and encouraging method of love topped with lots of communication. By the way, he could care less that I talk online and is often around during the rare times that I do.