Dating Mr. Ripley...
I happened to have a date last night with someone who referred to me by a friend. She's a dear that's why I can't say no. I won't tell what had trasnpired last night since, unfortunately, it became like one of those dates you'll probably forget in the future. I'm bored, He's clueless. Oh well..
So if you want to make "reto" someone or have the balls to ask for a date with a self-absorbed-high-maintenance-bitch-who-just-wants-to-have-a-good-time like me, here's a few things a guy ought to know first, in reference to what happened last night...
First of all, just because a person has opinions and he presents them well doesn't mean he can make conversation by himself. It takes two to tango, buster. The way it works is that both man and woman man contribute to make sure that a discussion ensues. That's how the getting-to-know-you process works honey.
Second of all, when someone asks you an honest question, you give an honest answer. Half-baked answers don't hack it. Forget mystery. The thing with guys on this side of the fence is they like people who are straightforward, because that's how they are. They lay it all out there. Not to intimidate, but to define.
Third, don't try to wow 'em with fame or whatever. He's not so easily impressed by name-dropping or fancy gifts or you strutting your stuff. It's what's inside of you, what you can do, how you think, how you feel that matters. That's what most guys are after. Even the man who has everything going for him.
Next, don't place him on a pedestal. If he wanted to be on a pedestal, he'd get one himself. It's lonely up there. Why do you think he went out with you? *diva alert* Hehehe. Seriously, he wants somebody who'll treat him on the same level, as an equal.
Lastly, don't think so much of yourself when he does come to you. When a guy who seems unreachable, reaches out to you. It means, he merely wants to get to know you. If you let your pride get in the way, you'll burn him. Being treated like a prize is an insult. He isn't a conquest you boast to your friends about. He isn't a trinket on your arm. He wants to be seen as a person, not an Oscar. (Yet sometimes its cute. I say cute, 'coz, on a gloomy weather like these, my folks tend to be kim chiu or Charlotte(Kristin Davis) on the loose... nevermind).
I should probably be jaded by my experience, but I'm not. I can sort of understand how it happened. I'm still hoping that someday I'll get it right and whoever he is, he'll get it right, too. Few wrong Prince Charmings first before Mr. Right di ba? To all my people who've made a choice to hold on to who they are, don't be afraid. It'll come y'all. Our small world may not be ready for us yet, but someday, that part of our lives will bloom, when it's ready to take the risks. *nahks* If it doesn't, there's always the rest of the world.
And, there's always other days and dates, for as long as Madonna lives on.
So if you want to make "reto" someone or have the balls to ask for a date with a self-absorbed-high-maintenance-bitch-who-just-wants-to-have-a-good-time like me, here's a few things a guy ought to know first, in reference to what happened last night...
First of all, just because a person has opinions and he presents them well doesn't mean he can make conversation by himself. It takes two to tango, buster. The way it works is that both man and woman man contribute to make sure that a discussion ensues. That's how the getting-to-know-you process works honey.
Second of all, when someone asks you an honest question, you give an honest answer. Half-baked answers don't hack it. Forget mystery. The thing with guys on this side of the fence is they like people who are straightforward, because that's how they are. They lay it all out there. Not to intimidate, but to define.
Third, don't try to wow 'em with fame or whatever. He's not so easily impressed by name-dropping or fancy gifts or you strutting your stuff. It's what's inside of you, what you can do, how you think, how you feel that matters. That's what most guys are after. Even the man who has everything going for him.
Next, don't place him on a pedestal. If he wanted to be on a pedestal, he'd get one himself. It's lonely up there. Why do you think he went out with you? *diva alert* Hehehe. Seriously, he wants somebody who'll treat him on the same level, as an equal.
Lastly, don't think so much of yourself when he does come to you. When a guy who seems unreachable, reaches out to you. It means, he merely wants to get to know you. If you let your pride get in the way, you'll burn him. Being treated like a prize is an insult. He isn't a conquest you boast to your friends about. He isn't a trinket on your arm. He wants to be seen as a person, not an Oscar. (Yet sometimes its cute. I say cute, 'coz, on a gloomy weather like these, my folks tend to be kim chiu or Charlotte(Kristin Davis) on the loose... nevermind).
I should probably be jaded by my experience, but I'm not. I can sort of understand how it happened. I'm still hoping that someday I'll get it right and whoever he is, he'll get it right, too. Few wrong Prince Charmings first before Mr. Right di ba? To all my people who've made a choice to hold on to who they are, don't be afraid. It'll come y'all. Our small world may not be ready for us yet, but someday, that part of our lives will bloom, when it's ready to take the risks. *nahks* If it doesn't, there's always the rest of the world.
And, there's always other days and dates, for as long as Madonna lives on.