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I have been on the phone with the coroner's office and funeral home in Toronto. The coroner told me that they wouldn't release any information to my dad's friends until he had permission from either me or my grandmother since we are the next of kin. My grandmother wants him to be cremated. My aunt asked me if I wanted his ashes and I said no, that it would kinda freak me out. She said she will hold them and think of somewhere he'd like to be.
I'm so sad. I didn't know my father very well but everytime I talked to him he made me laugh. My mom always told me I was so much like him. The last thing I told him was that I loved him. My grandmother talked to him the day he died. He told her he couldn't walk. She said what's wrong with your legs? He told her he was having kidney and liver failure.
My mom is upset, of course. She said although they've been divorced for a long time, he was her only husband and she couldn't help but think about "what could have been" if they stayed together and how her hopes for them were shattered.
The thing I have a problem with is my grandmother wants him to be cremated but I know my dad claimed he was Jewish and they should be buried. She knows this as well. I think though since I didn't know my dad very well at all and that was her son that it should be her decision. Also I asked my mom and she said she also thought he would have wanted to be cremated. So be it.
Rest in Peace Dad, I love you.
I'm so sad. I didn't know my father very well but everytime I talked to him he made me laugh. My mom always told me I was so much like him. The last thing I told him was that I loved him. My grandmother talked to him the day he died. He told her he couldn't walk. She said what's wrong with your legs? He told her he was having kidney and liver failure.
My mom is upset, of course. She said although they've been divorced for a long time, he was her only husband and she couldn't help but think about "what could have been" if they stayed together and how her hopes for them were shattered.
The thing I have a problem with is my grandmother wants him to be cremated but I know my dad claimed he was Jewish and they should be buried. She knows this as well. I think though since I didn't know my dad very well at all and that was her son that it should be her decision. Also I asked my mom and she said she also thought he would have wanted to be cremated. So be it.
Rest in Peace Dad, I love you.