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" Santana away from the idea that sex is completely severed from emotion and psychology"
Santana doesn't think this. Did you stop watching the show after Duets and then read a recap about I Do? Santana hasn't thought sex was severed from emotion or psychology since Sexy, when she admitted to herself she was gay. That is why she never once had sex with Sam (he lost his when he was a stripper after they dated) and then got a beard rather than having to have sex with any other guy. Because she was in love and she realized it and she didn't want to sleep with anyone else (i.e. that sex was tied to emotions and she couldn't do it when her emotions were elsewhere). Unlike BRITTANY who is fine hopping on Artie right after her friend broke down sobbing over her love for her and she bailed on her. She also had over a year long monogamous relationship because she knew sex was linked to emotion and psychology and sleeping around would be a betrayal. And they hinted that she didn't really have sex with anyone until after Diva when she and Britt were definitely done. This is literally the opposite of the problems she has. She does not think this.
Santana at sixteen had a history of treating sex-- exclusive of sex with Brittany-- as a tool and a bargaining chip. That she attached sex and emotions when sleeping with Brittany does not inherently make that the rule. If you're going to shit on my writing on the basis of canon for these characters as high schoolers dictating who they are ten years later, then let's consider all of the canon: Santana seduced and slept with Finn with no demonstrable attachment or emotional repercussion. Clearly, sex and emotion being intrinsically linked is not the rule for her.
Additionally: all of that supposedly well thought evidence you cited above was Santana in high school. Kids who just go to college without any melodrama or heartbreak change simply because they grow up. Kids who get outed on statewide television, go to college on a full scholarship and then leave midway through the first year to move to New York City and live with a couple of bully-victims-turned-friends? They change even more. If you expect me to believe that Santana, who in the past had demonstrated that she can and will have sex with no acknowledged emotional impact and is coming off of a huge heartbreak following everything with Brittany, doesn't embrace her status as a hot, out, and single lesbian in a place like New York City and go for hookups, then seriously, just be quiet.
And the whole point of that entire scene was that yes, Santana connects sex and emotion. But following her breakup with Brittany, and then her later breakup with Sarah, she went into a pattern of one night stands or serial dating and never got any real benefit from it sexually because she wasn't emotionally connected with her conquests. She just didn't realize that, and that's what Quinn was pointing out.
"Quinn and Santana and the way their friendship unfolded in the context of sex did a lot to help them each grow and mature and realize what they want out of life, and for Santana, that lead her back to Brittany. For Quinn, that wound up with her loosening up enough to accept her sexuality and become comfortable with it to the point where, not only is she happy with who SHE is, but she's so secure in it that she has no qualms with something like, say, marrying a guy who she met because he slept with Kurt."
All of that is great but it is tragic that all of this growing and maturing made Quinn more comfortable with herself and Santana regress to the point where she ended up with the worst possible match for herself. Someone who doesn't know how to be there for her emotionally (not that trying to force someone to wear a shirt doesn't solve the problems of all gay kids or anything) and who isn't smart enough for her. Even if she is a genius she isn't smart enough for Santana on a day to day basis.
If this is where this journey led them than Santana was much better off before she slept with Quinn when she was a mature person confident in her sexuality and knew enough to make a mature decision and cut off a relationship with someone she loved but wasn't going anywhere.
That Santana is regressing is based entirely on the premise that Brittany is the exact same person she was in high school. That premise is flawed, which makes you entire argument flawed.
Let's try an experiment. Look me up again in ten years and let's see if you're the same person you are today. You may very well be just as pretentious and stupid, but I bet you won't still be the same person you are now, just as I bet you aren't the same person you were ten years ago.
Santana doesn't think this. Did you stop watching the show after Duets and then read a recap about I Do? Santana hasn't thought sex was severed from emotion or psychology since Sexy, when she admitted to herself she was gay. That is why she never once had sex with Sam (he lost his when he was a stripper after they dated) and then got a beard rather than having to have sex with any other guy. Because she was in love and she realized it and she didn't want to sleep with anyone else (i.e. that sex was tied to emotions and she couldn't do it when her emotions were elsewhere). Unlike BRITTANY who is fine hopping on Artie right after her friend broke down sobbing over her love for her and she bailed on her. She also had over a year long monogamous relationship because she knew sex was linked to emotion and psychology and sleeping around would be a betrayal. And they hinted that she didn't really have sex with anyone until after Diva when she and Britt were definitely done. This is literally the opposite of the problems she has. She does not think this.
Santana at sixteen had a history of treating sex-- exclusive of sex with Brittany-- as a tool and a bargaining chip. That she attached sex and emotions when sleeping with Brittany does not inherently make that the rule. If you're going to shit on my writing on the basis of canon for these characters as high schoolers dictating who they are ten years later, then let's consider all of the canon: Santana seduced and slept with Finn with no demonstrable attachment or emotional repercussion. Clearly, sex and emotion being intrinsically linked is not the rule for her.
Additionally: all of that supposedly well thought evidence you cited above was Santana in high school. Kids who just go to college without any melodrama or heartbreak change simply because they grow up. Kids who get outed on statewide television, go to college on a full scholarship and then leave midway through the first year to move to New York City and live with a couple of bully-victims-turned-friends? They change even more. If you expect me to believe that Santana, who in the past had demonstrated that she can and will have sex with no acknowledged emotional impact and is coming off of a huge heartbreak following everything with Brittany, doesn't embrace her status as a hot, out, and single lesbian in a place like New York City and go for hookups, then seriously, just be quiet.
And the whole point of that entire scene was that yes, Santana connects sex and emotion. But following her breakup with Brittany, and then her later breakup with Sarah, she went into a pattern of one night stands or serial dating and never got any real benefit from it sexually because she wasn't emotionally connected with her conquests. She just didn't realize that, and that's what Quinn was pointing out.
"Quinn and Santana and the way their friendship unfolded in the context of sex did a lot to help them each grow and mature and realize what they want out of life, and for Santana, that lead her back to Brittany. For Quinn, that wound up with her loosening up enough to accept her sexuality and become comfortable with it to the point where, not only is she happy with who SHE is, but she's so secure in it that she has no qualms with something like, say, marrying a guy who she met because he slept with Kurt."
All of that is great but it is tragic that all of this growing and maturing made Quinn more comfortable with herself and Santana regress to the point where she ended up with the worst possible match for herself. Someone who doesn't know how to be there for her emotionally (not that trying to force someone to wear a shirt doesn't solve the problems of all gay kids or anything) and who isn't smart enough for her. Even if she is a genius she isn't smart enough for Santana on a day to day basis.
If this is where this journey led them than Santana was much better off before she slept with Quinn when she was a mature person confident in her sexuality and knew enough to make a mature decision and cut off a relationship with someone she loved but wasn't going anywhere.
That Santana is regressing is based entirely on the premise that Brittany is the exact same person she was in high school. That premise is flawed, which makes you entire argument flawed.
Let's try an experiment. Look me up again in ten years and let's see if you're the same person you are today. You may very well be just as pretentious and stupid, but I bet you won't still be the same person you are now, just as I bet you aren't the same person you were ten years ago.