Cultural differences are the spice of life
I am in love with an Itsekiri man from the Delta state in Nigeria, his mother was Urhobo and his father is Itsekiri. This is where we get complicated - his lineage is straightforward and after a lengthy discussion on this - I tried to explain my lineage - and in african terms..not easy.. the best I could do was a british celt on mothers side and netherlandish on my fathers - a netherlandish woman if we are following the patriarchal line?
This experiences that I am having with T, my soulmate, my light and my future are interesting because not of our cultural differences but our similiarities - the attitudes that we share, the fact that we are both stubborn and need a stubborn person to challenge each other. Somethings need explaining like my need for pot plants - my need to live in the moment and not project into the future (just yet) but yet, these are of the moment - the energy that we share, the tenderness that he expresses and his sheer expression of appreciation for who I am is amazing, he loves me for me - physically and spiritually..
I feel no need to compromise who I am with him, there is no need to hide who I am or what I am. Of course, compromise is made in all relationships - it is natural but not having the need to compromise WHO I AM is a major step forward and such a lightening of spirit for me that whatever happens between us (good or bad) it will be on the positive things to come out of this relationship.
I could see myself by the side of this man - loving him, supporting him and stepping forward..but the one day at a time stuff is good, the text messages first thing in the morning, last thing at night, the talking, the loving, the laughing..
I just love how he strokes my hair without me having to ask...
This experiences that I am having with T, my soulmate, my light and my future are interesting because not of our cultural differences but our similiarities - the attitudes that we share, the fact that we are both stubborn and need a stubborn person to challenge each other. Somethings need explaining like my need for pot plants - my need to live in the moment and not project into the future (just yet) but yet, these are of the moment - the energy that we share, the tenderness that he expresses and his sheer expression of appreciation for who I am is amazing, he loves me for me - physically and spiritually..
I feel no need to compromise who I am with him, there is no need to hide who I am or what I am. Of course, compromise is made in all relationships - it is natural but not having the need to compromise WHO I AM is a major step forward and such a lightening of spirit for me that whatever happens between us (good or bad) it will be on the positive things to come out of this relationship.
I could see myself by the side of this man - loving him, supporting him and stepping forward..but the one day at a time stuff is good, the text messages first thing in the morning, last thing at night, the talking, the loving, the laughing..
I just love how he strokes my hair without me having to ask...