Argh
Parenting vent....
My 18 year old son has a bad habit of eating things that are meant to be shared.
And/or helping himself to stuff that is not just his, like walking off with combs, toothpaste, etc and the stuff never returns.
Stuff like eating the peanut butter straight out of the big jar.
Or eating an entire tub of ice cream, in one sitting.
Or an entire package of Oreos. This was a line in the sand kind of issue, because I explained to him yesterday:
A: Cookies were to be shared
B: Cookies were to not be eaten straight out of the package where they could be distractedly consumed in one sitting.
C: Cookies were meant to last at least a week.
D: Default snacks when not in a rush were things like banannas, popcorn, carrots, celery, etc.
I got one cookie, my other son (whom I actually bought them for) got 5-6. Then he denies it with a cookie next to his head in his bed, and crumbs everywhere.
He has a laptop but left it at his Mom's, so when he borrows his brothers, after being told not to surf porn, surfs and downloads some porn onto it. He uses my computer, and I found 10 traces of viruses from him surfing for anime.
He leaves wet towels lying around. He doesn't flush after using the toilet and an excessive amount of toilet paper.
He is flunking his classes, he is not respecting other peoples things and he is disrespecting his apartment roommates (my other son and I) with his disregard for other people. He got left behind today because he wasn't ready to go to school and I didn't want to make my other son late.
He is eighteen, and yes he is a high-functioning aspie, but I want to punch the snot in the gut since he complains that he wants to experience the real world, that he can't trust anyone, and he is "seeking truth". Yeah, I will give him some truth, he will be homeless because nobody will share an apartment with a food thief, and if he can't wake himself up to go to school he won't be able to hold down a minimum wage job. He is trying to get into the Navy, and I PRAY he gets in otherwise he will be living on Ramen and dryer lint.
Its just been this last year, more like last 6 months, he has really screwed things up. He was really disciplined with schoolwork, and has never been on drugs/alcohol/sex. (still a virgin) Involved in church, but as of late has becomed really disillusioned with everything, is getting more and more into a Goth subculture...sigh. He will be with me for the next couple of weeks, then will swap back to his Mom's but he won't be having any fun here. Going to have to keep him on restriction.
My 18 year old son has a bad habit of eating things that are meant to be shared.
And/or helping himself to stuff that is not just his, like walking off with combs, toothpaste, etc and the stuff never returns.
Stuff like eating the peanut butter straight out of the big jar.
Or eating an entire tub of ice cream, in one sitting.
Or an entire package of Oreos. This was a line in the sand kind of issue, because I explained to him yesterday:
A: Cookies were to be shared
B: Cookies were to not be eaten straight out of the package where they could be distractedly consumed in one sitting.
C: Cookies were meant to last at least a week.
D: Default snacks when not in a rush were things like banannas, popcorn, carrots, celery, etc.
I got one cookie, my other son (whom I actually bought them for) got 5-6. Then he denies it with a cookie next to his head in his bed, and crumbs everywhere.
He has a laptop but left it at his Mom's, so when he borrows his brothers, after being told not to surf porn, surfs and downloads some porn onto it. He uses my computer, and I found 10 traces of viruses from him surfing for anime.
He leaves wet towels lying around. He doesn't flush after using the toilet and an excessive amount of toilet paper.
He is flunking his classes, he is not respecting other peoples things and he is disrespecting his apartment roommates (my other son and I) with his disregard for other people. He got left behind today because he wasn't ready to go to school and I didn't want to make my other son late.
He is eighteen, and yes he is a high-functioning aspie, but I want to punch the snot in the gut since he complains that he wants to experience the real world, that he can't trust anyone, and he is "seeking truth". Yeah, I will give him some truth, he will be homeless because nobody will share an apartment with a food thief, and if he can't wake himself up to go to school he won't be able to hold down a minimum wage job. He is trying to get into the Navy, and I PRAY he gets in otherwise he will be living on Ramen and dryer lint.
Its just been this last year, more like last 6 months, he has really screwed things up. He was really disciplined with schoolwork, and has never been on drugs/alcohol/sex. (still a virgin) Involved in church, but as of late has becomed really disillusioned with everything, is getting more and more into a Goth subculture...sigh. He will be with me for the next couple of weeks, then will swap back to his Mom's but he won't be having any fun here. Going to have to keep him on restriction.