oh really? you've commented on everything since day one, when you didn't even know me (and i'd argue you still don't) to know if i was worthwhile...and i imagine you do the same for everyone on your list.
i'd be more apt to care what you had to say if you ever said something worthwhile...instead of just commenting on everything with some positive yet often shallow statement. as i think i mentioned before, it's a bit like crying wolf...i'm not going to actually listen when you say something meaningful, because i'm so used to you pretty constantly saying nothing of purpose.
i'm not saying every comment HAS to be meaningful, there's no rule about it and i know all of mine certainly aren't. but your consistent pointlessness got old real quick.
that's what i'm afraid of. can't possibly compare myself to her (despite a lot of the similarities in our situation...late bloomers, bad daters, etc). so how can i even really expect that it'll still happen?
She is incredible. I can't believe I missed this post earlier!
But, I think there are a lot of women like us out there. (And I say like us, like you, her, me and plus some.) And I think we just don't talk about it, because it doesn't seem like a normal thing, not really knowing how to date or knowing how and not really finding the right guys to deal with the stuff that makes us interesting.
I've always felt like that, like I just missed some sort of on ramp, some instructional meeting and then I was in my 20's and all of my friends were out there and seasoned and had MANY boyfriends. And this year, it finally clicked for me. I had my first real, straight guy who likes me a lot and wants to kiss me in January and after, I had my first mutual fall in love in 2009.
I think it's finally happened for me, but even if this isn't it and tomorrow we never want to see each other again - I feel like it's been important. Important for a lot of ways, but it shows me that I am allowed to drive on that highway.
Because before this? I thought I would be alone forever. I'd almost gotten to the point of convincing myself that me being funny and having a pretty voice and being able to write was the trade off for being alone. And this was enough to convince me that no, I'm allowed to have those things AND the life with the person who loves me and who I love.
yeah at this point i wouuldn't mind just having the experience, because i know if i'm at least given the chance i could get better. i'm a pretty fast learner.
i feel like the trade off of everyone online thinking i'm attractive and super awesome and amazing, is that no one in real life will ever agree.
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I only comment because I think you're worth it :D
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i'd be more apt to care what you had to say if you ever said something worthwhile...instead of just commenting on everything with some positive yet often shallow statement. as i think i mentioned before, it's a bit like crying wolf...i'm not going to actually listen when you say something meaningful, because i'm so used to you pretty constantly saying nothing of purpose.
i'm not saying every comment HAS to be meaningful, there's no rule about it and i know all of mine certainly aren't. but your consistent pointlessness got old real quick.
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But, I think there are a lot of women like us out there. (And I say like us, like you, her, me and plus some.) And I think we just don't talk about it, because it doesn't seem like a normal thing, not really knowing how to date or knowing how and not really finding the right guys to deal with the stuff that makes us interesting.
I've always felt like that, like I just missed some sort of on ramp, some instructional meeting and then I was in my 20's and all of my friends were out there and seasoned and had MANY boyfriends. And this year, it finally clicked for me. I had my first real, straight guy who likes me a lot and wants to kiss me in January and after, I had my first mutual fall in love in 2009.
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Because before this? I thought I would be alone forever. I'd almost gotten to the point of convincing myself that me being funny and having a pretty voice and being able to write was the trade off for being alone. And this was enough to convince me that no, I'm allowed to have those things AND the life with the person who loves me and who I love.
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i feel like the trade off of everyone online thinking i'm attractive and super awesome and amazing, is that no one in real life will ever agree.
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But hey, if you haven't found anyone in a year or so, wanna go on a date?
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but god knows i love to eat, so sharing a meal is not out of the question.
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Sharing a meal sometime might be nice.
Not for a while thou.
I am kind of still in the "drink heavily alone in bars" phase.
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