An open letter:

[amdayen]

To whoever helped me move that put the heaviest box in my possession into the POD--the same box that contained about seven or eight inches of solid glass shelving:

Thank you. Thank you so much for not putting this box on the floor of the POD and instead choosing to stack it somewhere. I really did appreciate the help in moving and all, honestly

Comments

[__starley__]

This is why I hate helping people move, if things shift & they break you get blamed when you were in actuality either helping because you like the person or they asked you and you felt like you had to help. So you get in trouble for trying to do a good deed and instead of the person you helped being thankful they end up pissed at you for something that wasn't really your responsibility or issue to take care of in the first place.

Especially if they've prepacked everything, one can't know what is in every box of stuff that isn't theirs especially if its already packed when they're loading it in.

Fortunately I don't have to make choices like that any more as my arm issues prevent me from helping people move anyway.

I am sorry to hear your items got broken though it does suck to lose stuff you love but I feel badly for whoever you're now sarcastically thanking for breaking your stuff as I am sure they were probably really trying to help.

Hopefully nothing else will be broken I'll cross my fingers for you.

Hope everything else goes swimmingly and you get situated in your new state happily!

Hugs

[amdayen]

I'm not actually pissed. I'm a little irritated, but honestly this is the sort of thing that can only really be seen in hindsight. The thing is, I told them exactly what was in it. I wrote Fragile on the box, and then HEAVY about eight times. It was just one of those things that I had assumed someone would know to put down on the bottom. I didn't think I'd have to clarify "don't put this giant heavy fragile box where it might fall over if the truck shifts hard". But, alas. Hindsight.

I really am appreciative of the help they gave me and most of that thanks wasn't sarcastic. But I can't help but be irritated when two objects that are nigh impossible to replace get broken because of something I thought was common sense.

The problem with the internet, I think, is that it'd be easier to make this sarcastic thanks in person. If they were actually in the same room with me it'd probably come with a light punch on the shoulder and I'd be over it in the next few sentences. It came out nastier than I intended, but it is one of those "Gosh dangit, argh" sort of moments. So. Yeah. Don't mean to pounce or anything, but I can't help but be annoyed at broken things.

Moving makes me cranky. T_T

[joiless]

I am almost positive that this was not an invitation for you to passive-aggressively scold her. She's upset because someone picked up a very heavy box and put it on top of a stack of lighter boxes. It doesn't matter if you don't know what is in it, that's just plain stupid, especially if there are other things lower down which are fragile. It doesn't take a lot of firing brain cells to figure out "Hey, this pod thing is going to bang around a lot in transit, and if I put this heavy box up above these more delicate objects, it may fall down and crush them! I'd better set this on the floor just to be safe." And she did thank them more than once for helping her, including in this entry - and now she is upset because someone's thoughtlessness resulted in items that cannot be replaced getting damaged.

[__starley__]

I am Amy's friend I wasn't trying to passive aggressively scold her I said what I meant directly. I merely pointed out that while it sucks to lose stuff that I am sure it wasn't intentional and how it happens often when people help you move.

I am sorry if that upset you Joiless. But not agreeing outright, offering ones personal experience, sympathizing with someone else, or saying something someone doesn't like doesn't mean its passive aggressive behavior. You should look at the definition of passive aggressive before you attempt to try to label other people's reactions or motives as such especially someone that you don't know at all. You should maybe keep in mind too I am Amy's friend and text lacks tone as I honestly wasn't attempting to be a bitch to Amy and I am pretty sure she didn't take it as such.

In any case, as its Amy's journal and she's chosen to have us both on her filter I'll refrain from further comment on your post and simply wish you a happy life! Have a happy life friend of a friend!