My husband tells me I overthink all the time, and he's an INTJ. ;-)
I, however, am a self-avowed "feeler" (which makes me sound like an alien. O.o) and definitely someone who feels emotions very intensely. If something bothers me, I will feel it pretty quickly. I'm pretty self-aware and have always been fine with that aspect of my personality, so I am pretty quick to figure out what I'm feeling and then analyze why I'm feeling that way. The concept of thinking first and then feeling is not foreign to me, though; I can think about something and change the way I'm feeling about it, but I just naturally experience things first emotionally and then process them. For the most part, that is. There are always exceptions, as with most things.
Overthinking, to me, means assigning motivations to the actions of others, or coming up with scenarios that might happen if you do this or that, or saying, "But if I go to this party and so-and-so is there, we'll talk, and then later, she'll go to so-and-so and tell them this-or-that, and then this will happen..." It means coming up with six million things that could possibly happen, or figuring out what hidden motivation or meaning is beneath a simple, "Hey, what's up?", or things like that.
Sometimes, you just have to stop doing that or you'll worry yourself to death. :)
I would not think you were an overthinker, not really. It seems like you're very process-oriented, but to me, overthinkers tend to be more "Feeler" types. Honestly, they mostly seem to be women, but that could be that most women score an "F" on that section of the Meyers-Briggs. Which of course, is not a precise science :)
I, however, am a self-avowed "feeler" (which makes me sound like an alien. O.o) and definitely someone who feels emotions very intensely. If something bothers me, I will feel it pretty quickly. I'm pretty self-aware and have always been fine with that aspect of my personality, so I am pretty quick to figure out what I'm feeling and then analyze why I'm feeling that way. The concept of thinking first and then feeling is not foreign to me, though; I can think about something and change the way I'm feeling about it, but I just naturally experience things first emotionally and then process them. For the most part, that is. There are always exceptions, as with most things.
Overthinking, to me, means assigning motivations to the actions of others, or coming up with scenarios that might happen if you do this or that, or saying, "But if I go to this party and so-and-so is there, we'll talk, and then later, she'll go to so-and-so and tell them this-or-that, and then this will happen..." It means coming up with six million things that could possibly happen, or figuring out what hidden motivation or meaning is beneath a simple, "Hey, what's up?", or things like that.
Sometimes, you just have to stop doing that or you'll worry yourself to death. :)
I would not think you were an overthinker, not really. It seems like you're very process-oriented, but to me, overthinkers tend to be more "Feeler" types. Honestly, they mostly seem to be women, but that could be that most women score an "F" on that section of the Meyers-Briggs. Which of course, is not a precise science :)
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