No Rush
Two of my best friends are getting married next Summer. Three people that I have grown up with are making a lifelong commitment. They will be 22 years of age and feel that it is the right thing to do. I could not be more happy for them. But I just hope they have put this whole marriage thing into perspective. I have finally started hearing that one question. So when are you going to get married? I guess because my friends are doing it I am going to as well like it is some kind of peer pressure. I am in no rush to be paired off with someone I will spend the rest of my life with. I have the rest of my life to do that. I find marriage to be a life long covenant unlike many others. I realize there are many circumstances that are beyond justifiable for a divorce but in most cases could have been avoided by huge red flags that the two saw before hand. There sure is a lot of settling going on. But why? It is as simple as this for me. The guy that finds you perfect is the one you should spend the rest of your life with. Of course none of us are perfect. Society forces so much pressure for marriage. There are 1,200 advantages to a civil marriage in America. I am an independent person. Most of the time I like being by myself. I like spending time with friends but like to have the option of doing things on my own. I wouldn't have that if I was married or atleast it would be as easy. Children are another issue. I love kids. I love that no matter how upset I am they can always cheer me up. They amaze and surprise me every day. I know what I am the best at is working with children. As of right now I do not want to have kids. My biggest fear is to have a child and not be able to provide everything for them and be as close to a perfect parent as I could ever be. Kids deserve the world and I can't handle the responsibility of possibly letting them down. 78% kids live with a single mother and 40% live in poverty and 55% of men don't pay for their children. 1/2 of American children can not count on having a house, food, or clothing. I don't want my kids to be part of that statistic. That is why I am working so hard at getting through school and becoming financially stable before I start to think about getting married and having kids. Maybe this is my mind set because I haven't found the right person or they haven't found me. But I just don't understand what the rush is. There is so much I want to accomplish as a person and the last thing I need is to worry about anything else. It's selfish but crucial to my future. I am giving myself 10 years until I even start thinking about it. No rush!