Could get me into some trouble, but I'll put it out there anyway.
Considering the divorce rate, I am really surprised that so many married (or partnered) women stay home to raise their children. I mean, staying home with your kids is a really important job. It's challenging, rewarding and very, very important work. I only got to do it for a little over a year before Josh and I split and I had no other choice but to go back to working outside my home.
In my C.N.A class there is a 47 yr old woman. She is bright, quick and vastly intelligent. She went to college in the yearly 1980’s for broadcasting, and got to work in the field for 2 or 3 years. She got married shortly thereafter and stayed home for 20 plus years raising her two children (who are around my age. I know them both and they are rad people). A few years ago her husband left her. She gets alimony for a little while, but it’s going to run out soon. So, she began looking for a job. She found that she could not compete with all of the younger women in the work force, as they had more work experience. Her husband had to move out of the community and find a new job as well. He did not have any trouble. He too had gone to college for broadcasting, and while she stayed home raising their two children, he had over 20 years to become successful and build his career. She tells us, “My daughter is 20 years old and we are basically on the same level. No one really cares that I went to college, they want experience, and I have none”. She is fully grown woman, starting all over again because after 24 years of marriage her husband got bored and left.
You need to consider though… if you don’t raise your kids…then who will? I know many woman who chose to stay home so their children can have the very best care. So their children are not raised by strangers. I admire that, I really do. I just worry. I worry about all the smart women I know who will be completely disempowered and broke if their husbands take off. I know first hand what that is like. I was left penniless and homeless when Josh decided he wanted to be with someone else. Maybe my marriage was more vulnerable because we were young and statistically destined to fail. Maybe your marriage is stronger than mine was.
Maybe.
In my C.N.A class there is a 47 yr old woman. She is bright, quick and vastly intelligent. She went to college in the yearly 1980’s for broadcasting, and got to work in the field for 2 or 3 years. She got married shortly thereafter and stayed home for 20 plus years raising her two children (who are around my age. I know them both and they are rad people). A few years ago her husband left her. She gets alimony for a little while, but it’s going to run out soon. So, she began looking for a job. She found that she could not compete with all of the younger women in the work force, as they had more work experience. Her husband had to move out of the community and find a new job as well. He did not have any trouble. He too had gone to college for broadcasting, and while she stayed home raising their two children, he had over 20 years to become successful and build his career. She tells us, “My daughter is 20 years old and we are basically on the same level. No one really cares that I went to college, they want experience, and I have none”. She is fully grown woman, starting all over again because after 24 years of marriage her husband got bored and left.
You need to consider though… if you don’t raise your kids…then who will? I know many woman who chose to stay home so their children can have the very best care. So their children are not raised by strangers. I admire that, I really do. I just worry. I worry about all the smart women I know who will be completely disempowered and broke if their husbands take off. I know first hand what that is like. I was left penniless and homeless when Josh decided he wanted to be with someone else. Maybe my marriage was more vulnerable because we were young and statistically destined to fail. Maybe your marriage is stronger than mine was.
Maybe.