Perspectives on Passion and the Perfect Man
I found myself thinking about my life today. I do this quite often, but today I decided to write down the jumbled thoughts in my head, in hopes of straightening them out a bit. I am 20 years old and about to start my junior year of college. I'm immensely excited about the possibility of it all. When you're twenty, I think, you have this way of looking at the world that is necessarily different than any other outlook you will eventually have about life. Of course depending on current circumstances, but usually I would have to suspect that the perspective isn't as jaded, bitter, or disillusioned as when you're perhaps 40. So I find myself looking towards the future with unrestrained optimism. I crave for incredible things for myself. Not just monetarily but there is something slightly seductive about leaving a legacy that would make others pause in awe...to leave a mark with such force it can't be erased with time. I do, however, expect to be the best that I can be in the most ultimate and life defining way.
Currently I'm on a journey to "find myself"--at the risk of sounding cliche. I want to fully develop my capabilities and realize my potential in a way that is in itself defining. I want to experience different cultures and peoples-different ways of life and thought- in order to not just solidify who I am, but my understanding of who I am. I would love to spend a year in Europe, Africa, or Asia and teach --an avenue which I think I might do before I enter law school through a program I've been researching. I think it would be worthwhile to gain a fundamental understanding of my mental toughness and emotional flexibility before I enter into one of the most challenging and draining experiences I will possibly ever face.
The MYTH of the Perfect Man
I was talking to my best friend last night about the "Perfect Man". It's a phrase that's thrown at us constantly through television, magazines, and novels. It's an image that is personified through the charming and dashing faces of Brad Pitt, Colin Farrell, Orlando Bloom, Shemar Moore...etc etc. It's a guy who is strong, sincere, understanding, ruggedly handsome, and intelligent. The "Perfect Man" is a guy who completes a woman. He in essence, is a myth. I'm inclined to think that all though one could use the phrase "This guy is perfect for me" and not be completely off-the-mark, to say that there is without a doubt a guy who is "Perfect" is just false. It's an ideal that cannot be reached (and why should it?!). Of course one can see the fallacy in the idea of a "Perfect Man" since one already conceeds that no one is perfect. However, it still pops up repeatedly and often women are so confused about where he's hiding that they check the most unlikely places. I was once told by a really wise person that our soul mates are not the other side to a coin that completes us, but rather they help heal our souls. While the two may seem to be interchangeable I think one important difference should be noted. The idea that one has someone out there who, in essence, is their better half is intoxicating. An idea that there is someone out there who is the best of me--someone who has reached the ideal that I cannot possibly reach. But as usual, when someone is placed on a pedastal they inevitably and quickly fall from grace. Rather the idea that one has a "match" who helps to heal them is more appealing in the long run. The "Perfect" guy in this case is a guy who is not someone who has reached an ideal that you cannot possibly achieve-but rather someone who helps to bring the best in you-out.
Currently I'm on a journey to "find myself"--at the risk of sounding cliche. I want to fully develop my capabilities and realize my potential in a way that is in itself defining. I want to experience different cultures and peoples-different ways of life and thought- in order to not just solidify who I am, but my understanding of who I am. I would love to spend a year in Europe, Africa, or Asia and teach --an avenue which I think I might do before I enter law school through a program I've been researching. I think it would be worthwhile to gain a fundamental understanding of my mental toughness and emotional flexibility before I enter into one of the most challenging and draining experiences I will possibly ever face.
The MYTH of the Perfect Man
I was talking to my best friend last night about the "Perfect Man". It's a phrase that's thrown at us constantly through television, magazines, and novels. It's an image that is personified through the charming and dashing faces of Brad Pitt, Colin Farrell, Orlando Bloom, Shemar Moore...etc etc. It's a guy who is strong, sincere, understanding, ruggedly handsome, and intelligent. The "Perfect Man" is a guy who completes a woman. He in essence, is a myth. I'm inclined to think that all though one could use the phrase "This guy is perfect for me" and not be completely off-the-mark, to say that there is without a doubt a guy who is "Perfect" is just false. It's an ideal that cannot be reached (and why should it?!). Of course one can see the fallacy in the idea of a "Perfect Man" since one already conceeds that no one is perfect. However, it still pops up repeatedly and often women are so confused about where he's hiding that they check the most unlikely places. I was once told by a really wise person that our soul mates are not the other side to a coin that completes us, but rather they help heal our souls. While the two may seem to be interchangeable I think one important difference should be noted. The idea that one has someone out there who, in essence, is their better half is intoxicating. An idea that there is someone out there who is the best of me--someone who has reached the ideal that I cannot possibly reach. But as usual, when someone is placed on a pedastal they inevitably and quickly fall from grace. Rather the idea that one has a "match" who helps to heal them is more appealing in the long run. The "Perfect" guy in this case is a guy who is not someone who has reached an ideal that you cannot possibly achieve-but rather someone who helps to bring the best in you-out.