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[amadteaparty]

That's about the time we crossed from New Jersey to Connecticut, so we decided it would be a good time to pull over at a McDonalds. Finally Tom's son called back and just said he was dead in his bed. My mom started crying right away. I drove the rest of the way through Connecticut to Lee's house. I had called Lee when my mom was in the bathroom at McDonalds to warn him ahead of time. That drive sucked so bad. There wasn't anything to do. We both cried, then tried to keep our minds busy with other things. Can you imagine my poor mom, stuck in another state in another person's house having to deal with this. My roommates were so good at talking to her and keeping her mind off things. Lee had duty that night so my mom slept in his bed with me. That was so hard. As I was falling asleep I could hear her crying, but in my family we don't hug and console each other, we were always taught to deal with shit on our own. I dropped my mom off at the airport on Monday and then talked to my aunt who was going to pick her up. My aunt and my sister are the people there to watch out for her. Without Tom, and with me being gone now my mom has lost 90% of her support system. I just feel so horrible about all this and that I can't be there for her. Anyway, I'll update about the rest of my week in another entry.

(Sorry this is split up. I copied and pasted from my other journal)