Will the real men please stand up?
A close girlfriend of mine asked me this yesterday in a private conversation, "Where are the real men deep?". And this is a question I have been asking myself too. Just where are they?
I want to see men in the raw, real sense. Men who are serious in their careers and see themselves somewhere in the next few years. Or men who actually have plan on what they want to achieve and what they will move on to, if they don't get what they want. Men who realise that their other halves careers are only supplementary to theirs despite the women being terribly ambitious.
What about the real men in a relationship? Where they want to see the relationship going or what they expect? Or how are things going to work if it is long distance?
The older I get and the longer I stay in my career, the less real men I see. "You decide where we should go for dinner, honey," or, "Any movie you like is fine with me," or "You decide which job I should take." I mean, can men these days not make up their minds or are they just not the go-getters anymore.
Sometimes I wonder if this is the demise of generation Xers where we saw our fathers as the decision-makers and love the quiet strength in them. And the aggressiveness is what we don't get in men of today's generation. And when I say men, I mean men we can see ourselves settling down with for life. Men who are mature and who will be our pillars in our pitfalls together and men who will be role models to our children.
Can those men please stand up?
I want to see men in the raw, real sense. Men who are serious in their careers and see themselves somewhere in the next few years. Or men who actually have plan on what they want to achieve and what they will move on to, if they don't get what they want. Men who realise that their other halves careers are only supplementary to theirs despite the women being terribly ambitious.
What about the real men in a relationship? Where they want to see the relationship going or what they expect? Or how are things going to work if it is long distance?
The older I get and the longer I stay in my career, the less real men I see. "You decide where we should go for dinner, honey," or, "Any movie you like is fine with me," or "You decide which job I should take." I mean, can men these days not make up their minds or are they just not the go-getters anymore.
Sometimes I wonder if this is the demise of generation Xers where we saw our fathers as the decision-makers and love the quiet strength in them. And the aggressiveness is what we don't get in men of today's generation. And when I say men, I mean men we can see ourselves settling down with for life. Men who are mature and who will be our pillars in our pitfalls together and men who will be role models to our children.
Can those men please stand up?