Deep sigh :(
My friend has now lost the last member of his family. It was both expected and sudden.
I am distressed. I'm geographically closest to him at 2 hours away but he says he's ok for now. I'm not even sure where he is or I would have just gone there. His wife is a long plane trip away. I would suspect she's going to fly ASAP.
I just...feel like I am letting him down?
Everyone grieves in their own way, at their own pace. And I am not his wife, just an old friend he puts up with.
I feel useless. And a burden. If I can't help /now/ what good am I?
I'm not. I'm not good. No one asks me for anything.
But.
It is not my choice. It is not my grief. It is my friend. His feelings are the important ones.
So I'll twiddle my thumbs and listen for the phone. I told him to call 24/7 and I'll come. Watch movies or be teddy bear or whatever.
Just sad.
I am distressed. I'm geographically closest to him at 2 hours away but he says he's ok for now. I'm not even sure where he is or I would have just gone there. His wife is a long plane trip away. I would suspect she's going to fly ASAP.
I just...feel like I am letting him down?
Everyone grieves in their own way, at their own pace. And I am not his wife, just an old friend he puts up with.
I feel useless. And a burden. If I can't help /now/ what good am I?
I'm not. I'm not good. No one asks me for anything.
But.
It is not my choice. It is not my grief. It is my friend. His feelings are the important ones.
So I'll twiddle my thumbs and listen for the phone. I told him to call 24/7 and I'll come. Watch movies or be teddy bear or whatever.
Just sad.