well, I've never been to Spain....

[almostaddicted]

sooo.
this is totally un-wedding related, I'm not sure why I'm posting it here.

but....
Ash and I aren't friends anymore.

weird eh?
yeah, it is. weirdest of all is that I don't even really care.
I'm sure you can guess that it was about Chas. basically Ash changed her mind (yet again) and more or less forbid me from talking to him ever again. "I just don'

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[runwithyou]

well, wow. i obviously can't say i was expecting this, but i think with the situation between ash and chas and all that, i can't say i wasn't expecting it either.

now, to start, i have always thought you and ash were two totally different people, with different opinions and at very different points in your lives. but for some reason that worked. now i don't know why it worked, but you always seemed to be really close? i think one thing we as humans often forget is that we change. people change and it's just a fact of life, you know? people grow up, grower closer together or grow further apart. people enter different stages at different times in their lives and people come and go in our lives.

i know you and ash have been close friends for awhile and i am not saying you will never be close friends again, but maybe you need some time apart from ash? you know? grow up and discover yourself without her around. maybe you both need some time apart to reevaluate your friendship, your lives and how you really view your relationship.

i don't think you should feel bad about not feeing insecure or too upset about the entire situation. she doesn't have a right to tell you who you can talk too and who you can't, exboyfriend or not. you both live two different lives and maybe your lives were becoming too intertwined. i agree with you and i don't think chas is playing you two against each other and i think the issue between you and ash is a different issue. i think there is something more than her being angry about you talking to chas. i think you were feeling under appreciated and like you were giving more to the relationship, which may be the case.

so i really do think some time apart would be good. it sucks but it's life, right? people change and people want different things. maybe the reason you don't feel so upset is because this makes you feel a little less stressed and a little less worried. ash maybe wasn't treating you like you were treating her, so maybe she needs some time away from you too.

i don't think you should be nervous about feeling upset or hitting the panic button type thing, i think you just need to follow your heart. don't settle for something you don't want. do what feels right. you are an awesome, intelligent, special person and you deserve the best. you deserve a friendship that is equal, you know? you shouldn't have to put more into it and get less.

i hope things work out for the best. keep me updated.

xo.