Culmination
So... my brother-in-law pisses me off to no end. Let's start with the basics. He's 37-years-old and still lives with his parents. He whines on Facebook about how he has such financial strain when he spends all of his money on toys and other junk. He thinks he's some brilliant superhuman and looks down on EVERYONE around him.
Basically, he works all the time, but when he is home, he does nothing. He goes in his room and just stays there, comes out to eat food or dirty the house. He only ever does anything for money or if he thinks it will benefit him. His parents never say anything to him about anything, they just let him do whatever he wants. He doesn't even help with any of the bills around the house despite sucking up electricity constantly and taking two to three showers a day even before anyone else has had one.
He's so gross, like, he takes his food in the shower with him, then he leaves the trash and food leavings or whatever in the bathroom, he never cleans up after himself because he just assumes someone else will do it and I have to share a bathroom with him. His dad tries to say that it's because he's a conscientious driver and doesn't want to eat when he drives to save time. :/ I might agree with that if the idiot didn't text when he drives.
Driving. The car he currently drives was supposed to be mine and Joseph's. So, he didn't even pay for it, his Dad bought it for Joseph and I. What happens? Retard gets a job and starts taking the car every day even though he was supposed to fix up the blue car. He never did it, just kept using the car that was supposed to be ours, so what does his dad say? He says that since we didn't have any interest in the car... what fucking no interest? How were we supposed to have any interest in something that was never here because some idiot's parents have no balls and won't tell him to do what he needs to do. So, his dad ends up buying the car from us to give to the jackass.
They don't like telling him what to do because they feel like he's an adult and should know how to do it... but he NEVER does it. It's like... you expect him to know, but he's not gonna' unless you MAKE him. lol it's so fucking stupid. You can't bitch about your kid being an asshat if you don't force him not to be, if you just let him get away with everything it's your own fault.
He makes around 800 dollars a month. That's enough for an apartment where we live. Or he could even save up and get a little trailer and put it on the property or something. But no, he just blows all of his money on toys and bidding on Ebay and whatever else, so when he needs money for a phone card, food, gas, to pay bills, whatever, his parents end up covering it. I brought it up to his mom and she tries to say that he only makes enough to do what he wants. He makes at least 150 to 200 dollars a week. All I know is that once I am on my feet, unless they leave me money to take care of him, he's on his own. I already told my husband that if they leave him money and he blows it all, tough shit. If they leave the money to me, we'll get him a place to live, but he has to cover all the other expenses and if he can't do that, well then I guess he's SOL because I am not going to be his mom when he's such an inconsiderate piece of shit.
He doesn't care about anyone but himself. His parents try to say he has a good heart. He doesn't have a good heart realistically nor metaphorically. He is such a piece of shit to everyone around him, I don't mean that people look at him like he is one (even though I am sure there are more people than just me that do) but just how he treats other people is awful. It's how he treats the people that he sees every day, I have heard how he talks to people outside of this house and it is WAY different, from the tone of his voice to the words he uses and everything. He is just not a nice person and it gets so old his parents trying to say that he is.
Then it's like, if he hates everyone in this house so much, why the fuck does he continue to blow his money on garbage instead of saving and moving out? He has nothing holding him down, karma is constantly slapping him in the face because he's such an asshole and so inconsiderate that no one actually wants to be with him. He's actually kinda' like the forty-year-old virgin if that guy was a total asshole and lived with his parents... and actually wasn't a virgin. lol it's kinda' sad actually. I don't even know how to approach that, I want to say some stupid girl actually slept with him, but no, it wasn't a stupid girl, it was a very conniving girl that was basically just using him for money and whatever else before dropping him. His girlfriends never lasted long because eventually they got to know him and headed for the hills. He's basically had a dry spell for the last... 8 years. lol I guess because he's gotten older and women don't really want a 37-year-old with a bad attitude that still lives with his parents and spends all of his money on garbage to fill up his already garbage filled room.
Basically... what brought this all out is that idiot's idea that he has a place to say anything to anyone about anything. I was in the kitchen putting away baby food and Joseph was trying to get Viggo to do something, but Viggo is very hard headed and stubborn and wouldn't do it so Joseph told him to go to his room and he wouldn't listen so Joseph yelled, "now!" So the dumbass comes out of his room and starts calling Joseph a retard and a dumbass.
Now, normally, I just keep my mouth shut and stay out of it. But the thing is, I have so many day-to-day frustrations with this asshole that I actually have dreams where I am just knocking the shit out of him. So I guess all of that culminated and I actually lost control. Like I was just standing there putting away baby food one minute and the next I was staring down my brother-in-law telling him that he has no place to say anything because they aren't his kids and pointing out how he can't tell anyone how to talk to them because he has said much worse. He's told them to shut the fuck up and that he'd beat their ass and things like that. Of course he is just a fucking juvenile so all he can say to me is that he doesn't care and then resort to the name calling. Which as mad as my husband makes me, I guess in the end we still give a damn about each other because my jumping into the situation was spawned by how retard was talking to him and his actually getting in his brother's face was spawned by his calling me names.
So they ended up punching each other and the fight was eventually broken up by their mom, who of course sided with her precious elder baby who can do no fucking wrong despite being a total shit head. I actually Asked her by she always defends booboo and she tries to tell me that she doesn't and then tells me to shut up. lol like mother like son.
So now I sit and wait for my father-in-law to get home because inevitably after what happened we are going to have a "meeting" which basically consists of my husband's parents just laying into him about why he is a terrible person and telling him everything he is doing wrong and all the things he needs to do, occasionally saying something to me and basically completely ignoring fucktard because that's what they always do. How they treat Joseph by comparison is exactly one of the reasons where I would see that asshole end up on the street before I would spend any of my money to help him.
You might think that Joseph should be doing more for his family and he is in the wrong and he should get lectured and that might be true, but it's just a rerun. We know these things already and they NEVER get onto his older brother (by two years) about ANYTHING. If anything, he needs it more. I will always make sure my kids have what they need one way or another, but their eldest son is an idiot and practically a kid on his own and I will not be saddled by that when they should have taught him to be an adult in the first place. I also get tired of hearing about what I need to do because I KNOW what I need to do, actually doing it is the problem and really it all comes down to them wanting me to do what they think needs to be done and they never even look at the bigger picture which is basically there are things I have to do outside of what they want me to and I can't do everything. I also have to tack in keeping myself sane, which is why I am just barfing all of this onto Live Journal because I already feel so much better. My stomach was in complete knots when I started typing this and now I feel mostly normal, which is good.
Tomorrow is my last day for slacking off though. I HAVE to start studying again, I put it off all this month but it is a complete necessity. My father-in-law is constantly acting like we're going to move, but I think he just says that to placate me and that he doesn't really mean it. So if he doesn't have any plans to move, I have to get to where I can pay for us to move so at the very least I can get myself and my kids out of this house. When I first started school around eleven years ago, I was studying accounting. I still have a basic knowledge of the subject and I still have an accounting textbook so I figure I can just start studying every day and then go back to school. It'll be money out of pocket to pay for the certification, but at least I can make some money off of it more readily than waiting on finishing a book and getting it published. I have to do this for my family. I just have to. I have to get myself away from this demented situation.
Basically, he works all the time, but when he is home, he does nothing. He goes in his room and just stays there, comes out to eat food or dirty the house. He only ever does anything for money or if he thinks it will benefit him. His parents never say anything to him about anything, they just let him do whatever he wants. He doesn't even help with any of the bills around the house despite sucking up electricity constantly and taking two to three showers a day even before anyone else has had one.
He's so gross, like, he takes his food in the shower with him, then he leaves the trash and food leavings or whatever in the bathroom, he never cleans up after himself because he just assumes someone else will do it and I have to share a bathroom with him. His dad tries to say that it's because he's a conscientious driver and doesn't want to eat when he drives to save time. :/ I might agree with that if the idiot didn't text when he drives.
Driving. The car he currently drives was supposed to be mine and Joseph's. So, he didn't even pay for it, his Dad bought it for Joseph and I. What happens? Retard gets a job and starts taking the car every day even though he was supposed to fix up the blue car. He never did it, just kept using the car that was supposed to be ours, so what does his dad say? He says that since we didn't have any interest in the car... what fucking no interest? How were we supposed to have any interest in something that was never here because some idiot's parents have no balls and won't tell him to do what he needs to do. So, his dad ends up buying the car from us to give to the jackass.
They don't like telling him what to do because they feel like he's an adult and should know how to do it... but he NEVER does it. It's like... you expect him to know, but he's not gonna' unless you MAKE him. lol it's so fucking stupid. You can't bitch about your kid being an asshat if you don't force him not to be, if you just let him get away with everything it's your own fault.
He makes around 800 dollars a month. That's enough for an apartment where we live. Or he could even save up and get a little trailer and put it on the property or something. But no, he just blows all of his money on toys and bidding on Ebay and whatever else, so when he needs money for a phone card, food, gas, to pay bills, whatever, his parents end up covering it. I brought it up to his mom and she tries to say that he only makes enough to do what he wants. He makes at least 150 to 200 dollars a week. All I know is that once I am on my feet, unless they leave me money to take care of him, he's on his own. I already told my husband that if they leave him money and he blows it all, tough shit. If they leave the money to me, we'll get him a place to live, but he has to cover all the other expenses and if he can't do that, well then I guess he's SOL because I am not going to be his mom when he's such an inconsiderate piece of shit.
He doesn't care about anyone but himself. His parents try to say he has a good heart. He doesn't have a good heart realistically nor metaphorically. He is such a piece of shit to everyone around him, I don't mean that people look at him like he is one (even though I am sure there are more people than just me that do) but just how he treats other people is awful. It's how he treats the people that he sees every day, I have heard how he talks to people outside of this house and it is WAY different, from the tone of his voice to the words he uses and everything. He is just not a nice person and it gets so old his parents trying to say that he is.
Then it's like, if he hates everyone in this house so much, why the fuck does he continue to blow his money on garbage instead of saving and moving out? He has nothing holding him down, karma is constantly slapping him in the face because he's such an asshole and so inconsiderate that no one actually wants to be with him. He's actually kinda' like the forty-year-old virgin if that guy was a total asshole and lived with his parents... and actually wasn't a virgin. lol it's kinda' sad actually. I don't even know how to approach that, I want to say some stupid girl actually slept with him, but no, it wasn't a stupid girl, it was a very conniving girl that was basically just using him for money and whatever else before dropping him. His girlfriends never lasted long because eventually they got to know him and headed for the hills. He's basically had a dry spell for the last... 8 years. lol I guess because he's gotten older and women don't really want a 37-year-old with a bad attitude that still lives with his parents and spends all of his money on garbage to fill up his already garbage filled room.
Basically... what brought this all out is that idiot's idea that he has a place to say anything to anyone about anything. I was in the kitchen putting away baby food and Joseph was trying to get Viggo to do something, but Viggo is very hard headed and stubborn and wouldn't do it so Joseph told him to go to his room and he wouldn't listen so Joseph yelled, "now!" So the dumbass comes out of his room and starts calling Joseph a retard and a dumbass.
Now, normally, I just keep my mouth shut and stay out of it. But the thing is, I have so many day-to-day frustrations with this asshole that I actually have dreams where I am just knocking the shit out of him. So I guess all of that culminated and I actually lost control. Like I was just standing there putting away baby food one minute and the next I was staring down my brother-in-law telling him that he has no place to say anything because they aren't his kids and pointing out how he can't tell anyone how to talk to them because he has said much worse. He's told them to shut the fuck up and that he'd beat their ass and things like that. Of course he is just a fucking juvenile so all he can say to me is that he doesn't care and then resort to the name calling. Which as mad as my husband makes me, I guess in the end we still give a damn about each other because my jumping into the situation was spawned by how retard was talking to him and his actually getting in his brother's face was spawned by his calling me names.
So they ended up punching each other and the fight was eventually broken up by their mom, who of course sided with her precious elder baby who can do no fucking wrong despite being a total shit head. I actually Asked her by she always defends booboo and she tries to tell me that she doesn't and then tells me to shut up. lol like mother like son.
So now I sit and wait for my father-in-law to get home because inevitably after what happened we are going to have a "meeting" which basically consists of my husband's parents just laying into him about why he is a terrible person and telling him everything he is doing wrong and all the things he needs to do, occasionally saying something to me and basically completely ignoring fucktard because that's what they always do. How they treat Joseph by comparison is exactly one of the reasons where I would see that asshole end up on the street before I would spend any of my money to help him.
You might think that Joseph should be doing more for his family and he is in the wrong and he should get lectured and that might be true, but it's just a rerun. We know these things already and they NEVER get onto his older brother (by two years) about ANYTHING. If anything, he needs it more. I will always make sure my kids have what they need one way or another, but their eldest son is an idiot and practically a kid on his own and I will not be saddled by that when they should have taught him to be an adult in the first place. I also get tired of hearing about what I need to do because I KNOW what I need to do, actually doing it is the problem and really it all comes down to them wanting me to do what they think needs to be done and they never even look at the bigger picture which is basically there are things I have to do outside of what they want me to and I can't do everything. I also have to tack in keeping myself sane, which is why I am just barfing all of this onto Live Journal because I already feel so much better. My stomach was in complete knots when I started typing this and now I feel mostly normal, which is good.
Tomorrow is my last day for slacking off though. I HAVE to start studying again, I put it off all this month but it is a complete necessity. My father-in-law is constantly acting like we're going to move, but I think he just says that to placate me and that he doesn't really mean it. So if he doesn't have any plans to move, I have to get to where I can pay for us to move so at the very least I can get myself and my kids out of this house. When I first started school around eleven years ago, I was studying accounting. I still have a basic knowledge of the subject and I still have an accounting textbook so I figure I can just start studying every day and then go back to school. It'll be money out of pocket to pay for the certification, but at least I can make some money off of it more readily than waiting on finishing a book and getting it published. I have to do this for my family. I just have to. I have to get myself away from this demented situation.