my life.
living life is the most difficult challenge you'll ever be faced with. to help you through it, you get close to people; form relationships, make friends, and sometimes even have a boyfriend/girlfriend to help you get along. some people have relationships just to have a good time, and are able to rely on themselves to get through. but others, such as myself, live for their friends and family. if it wasn't for them, they would never be the person that they are, and they would never be able to make it in this cruel world.
what bothers me about relationships, is that you can't get close to someone without someone else getting upset. in a perfect world, you would be able to have as many friends as you want, as close as you want them to be, without people questioning the relationship. but this world is far from perfect. if you have a girlfriend, and you become close to another girl, you're causing two different problems. first, the girlfriend gets upset. she doesn't want you to be close to another girl in fear of losing you, and she doesn't like the fact that you're not spending all of your time talking to just her. now, it also causes a problem with them girl that you're close to. she gets involved, spending time with you, and eventually gets attracted. now, this doesn't seem bad, because you're not doing anything with her, but it still is. it's a problem because you upset her. she gets to where she feels like you're supposed to be her boyfriend because she's spent so much time with you. this doesn't make sense to me either. what's so bad about being a close friend, and what makes a friend different than a girlfriend?
i've done a lot of thinking on this subject, and in my opinion, the only differece is the sexual aspect of a relationship. it's obviously wrong to kiss another girl when you have a girlfriend, which is quite understandable. but i don't see what's so different in the conversations that you have or the way that you act around them. i feel like a great friend is someone that i can be open and honest with, share my feelings with, and just be myself around. a girlfriend is the same thing. i think it's wrong of a person to expect someone else to be fully committed emotionally to them, and having nothing to do with anyone else. it's selfish. how can a person be completely happy having a relationship with just one person? one single person can only have so many qualities, so you look to another to find different qualities that the other doesn't have. it just makes sense to me. but i guess i'm wrong.
i'm sorry to anyone that i've ever hurt because of my views on relationships. i guess i should start thinking more about the other person's feelings rather than my own. if everyone else is happy, then i guess it's okay if i'm not. i'm sorry that i'm a selfish person that does only what i want, while disregarding other's feelings.
what bothers me about relationships, is that you can't get close to someone without someone else getting upset. in a perfect world, you would be able to have as many friends as you want, as close as you want them to be, without people questioning the relationship. but this world is far from perfect. if you have a girlfriend, and you become close to another girl, you're causing two different problems. first, the girlfriend gets upset. she doesn't want you to be close to another girl in fear of losing you, and she doesn't like the fact that you're not spending all of your time talking to just her. now, it also causes a problem with them girl that you're close to. she gets involved, spending time with you, and eventually gets attracted. now, this doesn't seem bad, because you're not doing anything with her, but it still is. it's a problem because you upset her. she gets to where she feels like you're supposed to be her boyfriend because she's spent so much time with you. this doesn't make sense to me either. what's so bad about being a close friend, and what makes a friend different than a girlfriend?
i've done a lot of thinking on this subject, and in my opinion, the only differece is the sexual aspect of a relationship. it's obviously wrong to kiss another girl when you have a girlfriend, which is quite understandable. but i don't see what's so different in the conversations that you have or the way that you act around them. i feel like a great friend is someone that i can be open and honest with, share my feelings with, and just be myself around. a girlfriend is the same thing. i think it's wrong of a person to expect someone else to be fully committed emotionally to them, and having nothing to do with anyone else. it's selfish. how can a person be completely happy having a relationship with just one person? one single person can only have so many qualities, so you look to another to find different qualities that the other doesn't have. it just makes sense to me. but i guess i'm wrong.
i'm sorry to anyone that i've ever hurt because of my views on relationships. i guess i should start thinking more about the other person's feelings rather than my own. if everyone else is happy, then i guess it's okay if i'm not. i'm sorry that i'm a selfish person that does only what i want, while disregarding other's feelings.