Imminent arrival of The Mother Creature
The Mother Creature arrives tomorrow for a stay of unknown duration. Actually, I'm not even positive it is tomorrow that she is arriving.
The problem is that since she had her varicose veins operated on just prior to Christmas, she is unable to fly and is therefore relying on friends to bring her up - this is a 7 hour or so journey by car. The friends are very happy to bring her, but are people to whom time means little, and travel should not be rushed - nor timetabled.
In one manner I am like the Mother Creature: I like to know what is happening, and when. So I find not know when she is arriving to be quite stressful. And this is on top of the usual stressful panic of 'Oh my god my mother is coming to stay!'
The reason for her visit is that my cousin is getting married on Friday. I'm really looking forward to the wedding - this cousin was my bridesmaid when the Hubby and I married 9 years ago on January 6th. However. The wedding will be Catholic. Full Nuptial Mass in fact. The Mother Creature is very very anti-catholic (for reasons I won't go into here), and will no doubt make many a cutting remark against them, hopefully not within anyone elses hearing.
Now, some of these remarks I can live with - but it's the ones where she goes on and on about things she's read in various and sundry books 'exposing corruption' etc and then relating all little anecdotes about family members to show how that corruption is insidious etc that get on my nerves. Not every priest is like those mentioned in books, and people who write those sorts of books sometimes seem to have an agenda to implicate the entire church along with whatever church member they dealt with.
My mother is just the wrong type of person to get ahold of this type of thing, because then she manages to twist everything that has ever been said or done by various catholic people into showing how right so-and-so's book was. and how right she is to feel and say the things she does.
Twisting things is something she does with monotonous regularity, as I've mentioned previously, and I find it terribly difficult to hold my tongue when she is denigrating those around me, and also denigrating me. I find myself 'answering back', and trying to calmy rationalise with her. But how do you rationalise with someone who is so clearly not rational? And the thing is that I get so angry and then don't feel guilty anymore about it. I used to - feel guilty that is. But I'm passed that now. I feel angry that I've been prodded and pushed into this situation of really not liking my mother very much. It has gone past love and become obligation.
As Baffy said on her LJ "God, what have I become".
And the best answer was from another poster: I think the question you need to ask yourself is "God, what has she become?"
The problem is that since she had her varicose veins operated on just prior to Christmas, she is unable to fly and is therefore relying on friends to bring her up - this is a 7 hour or so journey by car. The friends are very happy to bring her, but are people to whom time means little, and travel should not be rushed - nor timetabled.
In one manner I am like the Mother Creature: I like to know what is happening, and when. So I find not know when she is arriving to be quite stressful. And this is on top of the usual stressful panic of 'Oh my god my mother is coming to stay!'
The reason for her visit is that my cousin is getting married on Friday. I'm really looking forward to the wedding - this cousin was my bridesmaid when the Hubby and I married 9 years ago on January 6th. However. The wedding will be Catholic. Full Nuptial Mass in fact. The Mother Creature is very very anti-catholic (for reasons I won't go into here), and will no doubt make many a cutting remark against them, hopefully not within anyone elses hearing.
Now, some of these remarks I can live with - but it's the ones where she goes on and on about things she's read in various and sundry books 'exposing corruption' etc and then relating all little anecdotes about family members to show how that corruption is insidious etc that get on my nerves. Not every priest is like those mentioned in books, and people who write those sorts of books sometimes seem to have an agenda to implicate the entire church along with whatever church member they dealt with.
My mother is just the wrong type of person to get ahold of this type of thing, because then she manages to twist everything that has ever been said or done by various catholic people into showing how right so-and-so's book was. and how right she is to feel and say the things she does.
Twisting things is something she does with monotonous regularity, as I've mentioned previously, and I find it terribly difficult to hold my tongue when she is denigrating those around me, and also denigrating me. I find myself 'answering back', and trying to calmy rationalise with her. But how do you rationalise with someone who is so clearly not rational? And the thing is that I get so angry and then don't feel guilty anymore about it. I used to - feel guilty that is. But I'm passed that now. I feel angry that I've been prodded and pushed into this situation of really not liking my mother very much. It has gone past love and become obligation.
As Baffy said on her LJ "God, what have I become".
And the best answer was from another poster: I think the question you need to ask yourself is "God, what has she become?"