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My dad has been given the news that there really is no hope.
The chemo is not working, and periodically doesn't. They've found a mass in his lung. No one's bothered to go in yet, but general feeling from the doctors is that the cancer is spreading.
Basically, the chemo is keeping him alive (seriously sick, but alive) a little longer at a time. no ( Read more... )
Nicole, I am so sorry to hear about this development with your dad. It is truly heartbreaking and I know that your entire family is living through a nightmare.
Although I won't compare what I went through a few years ago with my dad dying a slow death from Congestive Heart Failure and Alzheimer's,but I do relate to what you are going through right now. Not to the same degree due to the different ages of all people involved, but I do understand. The biggest thing for you to do right now is spend as much quality time with your dad as you can so you don't have any regrets down the road. I fought with my dad for most of my life and his last years were when our relationship was the best. And I have no regrets now in looking back at the relationship I had with my dad even with all the drama.
I can give you one glimmer of hope on the lung cancer/radiation situation though. A good friend of mine over at martinaville's mom had lung cancer and dementia and the cancer put her in the nursing home. Amazingly, the radiation treatments totally cured the lung cancer. You dad is much younger than this woman who is near 80 but the fact that he is younger and stronger gives hope that at least the lung cancer can be beaten though radiation.
And I'm so glad to see you say how much your dad really loves you. I always knew that by reading between the lines when you spoke of him, even when you were really mad and upset. He thinks you walk on water and he always did. Some things I can just tell.
I know alot of your dad's problems were most likely out of his control and that held him back and damaged some relationships in your family. They may be the same issues that have held you back in so many ways too. But remember you also have your mom's blood flowing through your veins and hopefully some of her strength will show in you in this hard time.
I don't know what else to say other than I've thought about you, your dad and your entire family since I first read of this at the beginning of the year. And I'll continue praying for all of you guys and especially for a miraclous recovery for your dad. And these miraculous recoveries DO in fact happen so stay strong and don't lose hope.
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