You are a will that makes me strong..
So. Ive been talking to this guy named elmer for a month now. Hes completely sweet. A real charmer, yanno those to good to be true guys... Anyway. It started out slow... Where we just spoke a few times a day and then he stayed up all night to talk to me while I worked. And he kept saying how nice it was to be able to talk someone who was so nice. Then we started talking on the phone hours at a time, plus the all day texting. Then this past week weve only spoken a handful of times thru text until tonight he called and we talked for an hour.
This situation is very different. You see, his wife and him decided to get a divorce in april. They were miserable together and are getting along better as friends, and parents to their 6 year old daughter. They well he owns a house and shes living there still paying rent and whatever has her own room and they dont have sex or anything. They are just friends. So thats weird... And so two weeks ago him and I were on the phone and she had a guy over because shes been dating obviously. And she was going to go for a drive with him, but before she did, she got on the phone and said hi to me. Awkward. So then he gets off the phone for a few minutes and calls back and said she ended up not going because she noticed elmer was upset by it and so she stayed home. As he was telling me this im thinking like... Hes still jealous, which im thinking oh... So hes not over her and something is going on that hes not telling me... So I get quiet and he says ohh the awkward silence and I nervous laugh and I say sorry that I was just thinking. And I hear the ex in the background say ohh dont let me ruin this for you and he snaps at her and says that shes not ruining anything. Then I ask for her tobget on the phone. I ask her blatently if shes still in love with him... If they are getting back together... If this is just a phase that they are going through, and she assures me its not. That they fought all the time almost everyday and that she wasnt ever truly in love with him. And told me im all elmer talks about and how hes excited to come to california to drive back to north carolina with me and that shes happy hes happy. And she said that hes jealous and gets upset with her because shes been sleeping around lately and shes got a problem saying no to guys and shes real hard on herself after her dates and he hates seeing her that way....
So... I let it go... But then today hes telling me that they got into a fight and shes moving back home to oklahoma next week and taking their daughter and hes sounding like hes trying not to cry... And im telling him oh shes probably just pissed off and she will cool off in the morning. But I guess what happened was that she asked if he could go somewhere tonight for a few hours because she wanted to be at the house with a date. And I guess he flipped out and was pretty mean to her and thats why shes leaving or at least threatening to leave.
So... Now. Im sitting here at work and I cant stop thinking about it. Like what is he jealous for ? I know they were together for a long time and I know its hard seeing her be happy with someone else but thats what they both signed up for when they decided to continue living together after deciding to end their marriage. And I know it sounds like I am being cold hearted but I would probably react the same if I was in the same position... But I have a million things running throufh my head. And I dont want to bombard him with them because of what hes going through right now. But ag the same time im seriously not sure what to do.
The selfish in me wants her to move so I can swoop in and be there for hom , but I dont want him to be without his daughter. He doesnt care if she moves back but the daughter part is whats hurting him. And im completely sympathetic with that. And I wish I knew what to do now. I feel like I should leave him alone for a little while and see how things turn out. But he said he wants to talk to me and not to leave him alone.
Le sigh. :x
This situation is very different. You see, his wife and him decided to get a divorce in april. They were miserable together and are getting along better as friends, and parents to their 6 year old daughter. They well he owns a house and shes living there still paying rent and whatever has her own room and they dont have sex or anything. They are just friends. So thats weird... And so two weeks ago him and I were on the phone and she had a guy over because shes been dating obviously. And she was going to go for a drive with him, but before she did, she got on the phone and said hi to me. Awkward. So then he gets off the phone for a few minutes and calls back and said she ended up not going because she noticed elmer was upset by it and so she stayed home. As he was telling me this im thinking like... Hes still jealous, which im thinking oh... So hes not over her and something is going on that hes not telling me... So I get quiet and he says ohh the awkward silence and I nervous laugh and I say sorry that I was just thinking. And I hear the ex in the background say ohh dont let me ruin this for you and he snaps at her and says that shes not ruining anything. Then I ask for her tobget on the phone. I ask her blatently if shes still in love with him... If they are getting back together... If this is just a phase that they are going through, and she assures me its not. That they fought all the time almost everyday and that she wasnt ever truly in love with him. And told me im all elmer talks about and how hes excited to come to california to drive back to north carolina with me and that shes happy hes happy. And she said that hes jealous and gets upset with her because shes been sleeping around lately and shes got a problem saying no to guys and shes real hard on herself after her dates and he hates seeing her that way....
So... I let it go... But then today hes telling me that they got into a fight and shes moving back home to oklahoma next week and taking their daughter and hes sounding like hes trying not to cry... And im telling him oh shes probably just pissed off and she will cool off in the morning. But I guess what happened was that she asked if he could go somewhere tonight for a few hours because she wanted to be at the house with a date. And I guess he flipped out and was pretty mean to her and thats why shes leaving or at least threatening to leave.
So... Now. Im sitting here at work and I cant stop thinking about it. Like what is he jealous for ? I know they were together for a long time and I know its hard seeing her be happy with someone else but thats what they both signed up for when they decided to continue living together after deciding to end their marriage. And I know it sounds like I am being cold hearted but I would probably react the same if I was in the same position... But I have a million things running throufh my head. And I dont want to bombard him with them because of what hes going through right now. But ag the same time im seriously not sure what to do.
The selfish in me wants her to move so I can swoop in and be there for hom , but I dont want him to be without his daughter. He doesnt care if she moves back but the daughter part is whats hurting him. And im completely sympathetic with that. And I wish I knew what to do now. I feel like I should leave him alone for a little while and see how things turn out. But he said he wants to talk to me and not to leave him alone.
Le sigh. :x