Please take your literal interpretations to the other side of the River
I have just realised why I am such a push over sometimes... especially when it comes to people of a higher authority than myself (ie. The boss).
Not only do I have an inherent fear of authority figures (doesn't everybody) that aren't my parents, but I also feel the need to address everything the person says...
While I was talking to the boss about something, he interupted (stating the obvious mind you) and in the middle of my sentence I said, "Yes thats right," and he started to walk away so I decided not to waste my breath. But I realised, if I hadn't stopped to address what he said, I would have made it out of the conversation with finishing what I wanted to say.
Me and my parents were talking a few weeks ago and we were talking about how my brother is much more "assertive" (ie, he's obnoxious and arrogant) than I am. And Mum said it best, "Your like me, your a lover, not a fighter." We are both the same in that we will tend to avoid conflict where at all possible... that is of course unless we are aggravated and pushed too far, then we'll have a go. But we have to pushed a bit to get there.
Which also made me think, should I be more assertive?
Probably.
But I feel incomfortable when I do. I have trouble talking to people I don't know well... even some people I do know well. I become at a loss for words and sometimes a decent conversation is hard to carry... especially if the emphasis is on the talking... like on the phone or something similar. Maybe I am a bit too reserved. Maybe I need to loosen up a bit.
I loosened up alot when I took over my supervisors job without someone to work under me. I had to. Or I wouldn't have made it. Maybe I need to learn that again. Progress to the next level, as it were.
I should probably save my game first though. Don't want to go to the next level and end up losing myself there. *Shrugs* I'm very strange and offputting.
Not only do I have an inherent fear of authority figures (doesn't everybody) that aren't my parents, but I also feel the need to address everything the person says...
While I was talking to the boss about something, he interupted (stating the obvious mind you) and in the middle of my sentence I said, "Yes thats right," and he started to walk away so I decided not to waste my breath. But I realised, if I hadn't stopped to address what he said, I would have made it out of the conversation with finishing what I wanted to say.
Me and my parents were talking a few weeks ago and we were talking about how my brother is much more "assertive" (ie, he's obnoxious and arrogant) than I am. And Mum said it best, "Your like me, your a lover, not a fighter." We are both the same in that we will tend to avoid conflict where at all possible... that is of course unless we are aggravated and pushed too far, then we'll have a go. But we have to pushed a bit to get there.
Which also made me think, should I be more assertive?
Probably.
But I feel incomfortable when I do. I have trouble talking to people I don't know well... even some people I do know well. I become at a loss for words and sometimes a decent conversation is hard to carry... especially if the emphasis is on the talking... like on the phone or something similar. Maybe I am a bit too reserved. Maybe I need to loosen up a bit.
I loosened up alot when I took over my supervisors job without someone to work under me. I had to. Or I wouldn't have made it. Maybe I need to learn that again. Progress to the next level, as it were.
I should probably save my game first though. Don't want to go to the next level and end up losing myself there. *Shrugs* I'm very strange and offputting.