remembrance of things past
i told you that i had a bad feeling it would be a bad year. and while i didn't expect it to happen like this, it sure looks like i was onto something there.
when i was in high school, i had a fairly large group of friends. we were a mismatched gang, and we were more like three or four groups of friends that overlapped. i wasn't super close to everyone, but i considered all of them my friends. and one of those friends passed away yesterday. she was in a bad car accident and she was pronounced dead on the scene.
from greenwichtime.com:
'98 GHS grad killed in crash
By Hoa Nguyen
Staff Writer
March 2, 2006
With her tattoos, body piercing, and eye-popping pink or sometimes white hair, Jennifer Sue Catherine Krieg made a statement wherever she went.
But while her appearance coupled with her love of parties and rave concerts formed most people's impressions of her, there was a strength and independence to Krieg, who, when the situation called for it, could be bluntly honest -- a trait that earned her the respect of family and friends.
"She always had a fire about her," said her Greenwich childhood friend Lauren Cohen, 26, now of Miami. "She's not a pushover. That was what we loved about her. She had a strength about her that some people would misconstrue as her not being a nice person. But people who know her knew she's strong and she wouldn't taking anything."
Krieg, 25, died Saturday in a car accident in Hartford. Police there said they are searching for the man they think drove the car that killed the 1998 Greenwich High School graduate.
Jesus Velazquez, 49, of Rocky Hill, is suspected of ramming a dark-colored Infiniti G35 into a Honda Civic in which Krieg was a backseat passenger, police said.
"She was impacted in the driver-side rear -- that was where the brunt of it was," said Lt. Scott Sansom of the Hartford police.
Krieg was pronounced dead at the scene on Maple Avenue, about a mile from Hartford Hospital, Sansom said.
The driver of the Honda, Candice McGovern, 26, of Greenwich, and her sister, Amanda, 25, who sat in the front passenger seat, were injured and taken to Hartford Hospital, police said.
Amanda McGovern was discharged from the hospital and her sister was set to be released, although she may have stayed there an extra night yesterday, Cohen said.
The accident occurred at 10:15 p.m. on a two-lane divided highway populated by a mix of three-family houses and businesses, Sansom said.
McGovern was traveling south and about to make a turn when the Infiniti slammed into her Honda from behind, police said. Witnesses said Velazquez was the only occupant in the car and, following the impact, got out, stumbled about as if he was injured, and then left the scene on foot, Sansom said.
Occupants of a nearby parked car also sustained minor injuries, police said. Authorities are seeking to question Velazquez. Anyone with information on where he is should contact Detective Anthony Perez at (860) 527-6300.
Yesterday, Krieg's friends and family remembered her as a free spirit.
"The kid never went out without a smile on her face," her mother, Christine Palmer, 48, said.
Sporting two tattoos on her backside, Krieg introduced her mother and stepfather, Richard Palmer, 50, to that world, said the pair who now have tattoos running down their arms and legs.
"She took me for my first tattoo for Mother's Day," Christine Palmer said of the yellow submarine and Beatles tattoo she has had on her ankle since 1998.
Krieg loved malls and raves, where crowds dance to techno and club music, her parents said.
A few years ago, Krieg moved to Miami with her boyfriend and worked at a Hot Topic clothing store while taking business classes.
"She was happier being in Florida," said Krieg's sister, Bridget, who now lives in Waterbury.
But Jennifer Krieg, who also is survived by a brother, James Krieg of Greenwich, never forgot about her friends and often would return to town to visit them, especially Amanda McGovern, a best friend who shared the same birthday.
McGovern could not be reached for comment. Cohen said Krieg's friends have been calling each other and are torn by her death.
"At this point, I'm so worn out from crying," Cohen said, adding that she and her mother intend to return to town today to pay their respects.
Calling hours are scheduled from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. tomorrow at Fred D. Knapp & Son Funeral Home, 267 Greenwich Ave. Krieg is to be cremated and there will be no funeral. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to St. Catherine's Church Youth Group, 4 Riverside Ave. Riverside, 06878.
Copyright © 2006, Southern Connecticut Newspapers, Inc.
she was my friend, she was best friends with one of my good friends, and her sister dated my friend stone for a long time. (they were engaged, but last i heard they weren't together anymore. i don't know what happened since, though.) she was cool, and we would hang out during opens and before and after school. i got drunk for the first time at a party that she was at. i played cards with her often at lunch. she'd accompany me occasionally when i'd borrow our friends car to go get starbucks and cigarettes. and she was always a little crazy, but mostly in a good way.
and then, as happens in high school, we graduated and we grew apart. because we weren't *good* friends, i hardly thought about her. once in a while, maybe, when i was in a nostalgic mood, but otherwise not at all. she messaged me, on myspace, about a month ago. i kept meaning to write her back and i just.....never got a chance. part of me was afraid. part of me was hiding. part of me was running away. i didn't know what to say, i didn't know what we would talk about. i didn't want to reminisce. not then, not now. i don't want to think about it.
but now she's gone, and i'm here. i don't know what to do, or say. i feel like it would be good for me to go to the service, it's tomorrow night, i think i *could* make it there. but i keep finding excuses not to. and i don't know her family, like, at all, except for her sister and not only do i not know if she remembers me, but even if she does i'm not really sure she ever really liked me. i feel pretty sad, and pretty bad, and kind of lost. i don't understand how this could happen. i feel like shit that i never messaged her back, and i feel like shit that we didn't keep in touch. and now i don't know what to do, or what to think, or what to say.
i messaged her best friend (who also went to high school with us) on myspace and expressed my condolences, and asked if she could give me some kind of contact information for her family. i don't know if it was appropriate, i have no idea, especially since she was in the car accident with her. it probably wasn't. i don't know what to do in times like these. i'm not good with emotional situations (as i'm sure several of my exes and friends would be willing to attest to). i want to say and do the right thing, but who knows what that is? and i've been looking all over the internet and it all seems to assume that you're close to the family or at least the deceased. and we were never *terribly* close. so i don't know what's appropriate. i don't know what to do.
other than that, the rest of my day consisted of working from home because it started snowing like, as i was trying to decide whether or not to stay home. so i stayed home and it worked out well. i got some work done, not as much as i'd hoped because my computer decided to choke right around 5pm, but some. everything i needed to, anyway, which i guess is what's important.
and i just found out that dave foley is on this week's episode of scrubs......which, as per usual with me, suddenly makes everything all better.
anyway. so. that was my day. deep, huh? damn.
mwah.
~a
ETA: let me just add that you should never, EVER, believe my brother if he says he's going to do something. it doesn't matter how much he promises or swears it'll get done. if he doesn't do it right away, or if it's important to you but not to him? IT ISN'T HAPPENING. thank you, and good night.
when i was in high school, i had a fairly large group of friends. we were a mismatched gang, and we were more like three or four groups of friends that overlapped. i wasn't super close to everyone, but i considered all of them my friends. and one of those friends passed away yesterday. she was in a bad car accident and she was pronounced dead on the scene.
from greenwichtime.com:
'98 GHS grad killed in crash
By Hoa Nguyen
Staff Writer
March 2, 2006
With her tattoos, body piercing, and eye-popping pink or sometimes white hair, Jennifer Sue Catherine Krieg made a statement wherever she went.
But while her appearance coupled with her love of parties and rave concerts formed most people's impressions of her, there was a strength and independence to Krieg, who, when the situation called for it, could be bluntly honest -- a trait that earned her the respect of family and friends.
"She always had a fire about her," said her Greenwich childhood friend Lauren Cohen, 26, now of Miami. "She's not a pushover. That was what we loved about her. She had a strength about her that some people would misconstrue as her not being a nice person. But people who know her knew she's strong and she wouldn't taking anything."
Krieg, 25, died Saturday in a car accident in Hartford. Police there said they are searching for the man they think drove the car that killed the 1998 Greenwich High School graduate.
Jesus Velazquez, 49, of Rocky Hill, is suspected of ramming a dark-colored Infiniti G35 into a Honda Civic in which Krieg was a backseat passenger, police said.
"She was impacted in the driver-side rear -- that was where the brunt of it was," said Lt. Scott Sansom of the Hartford police.
Krieg was pronounced dead at the scene on Maple Avenue, about a mile from Hartford Hospital, Sansom said.
The driver of the Honda, Candice McGovern, 26, of Greenwich, and her sister, Amanda, 25, who sat in the front passenger seat, were injured and taken to Hartford Hospital, police said.
Amanda McGovern was discharged from the hospital and her sister was set to be released, although she may have stayed there an extra night yesterday, Cohen said.
The accident occurred at 10:15 p.m. on a two-lane divided highway populated by a mix of three-family houses and businesses, Sansom said.
McGovern was traveling south and about to make a turn when the Infiniti slammed into her Honda from behind, police said. Witnesses said Velazquez was the only occupant in the car and, following the impact, got out, stumbled about as if he was injured, and then left the scene on foot, Sansom said.
Occupants of a nearby parked car also sustained minor injuries, police said. Authorities are seeking to question Velazquez. Anyone with information on where he is should contact Detective Anthony Perez at (860) 527-6300.
Yesterday, Krieg's friends and family remembered her as a free spirit.
"The kid never went out without a smile on her face," her mother, Christine Palmer, 48, said.
Sporting two tattoos on her backside, Krieg introduced her mother and stepfather, Richard Palmer, 50, to that world, said the pair who now have tattoos running down their arms and legs.
"She took me for my first tattoo for Mother's Day," Christine Palmer said of the yellow submarine and Beatles tattoo she has had on her ankle since 1998.
Krieg loved malls and raves, where crowds dance to techno and club music, her parents said.
A few years ago, Krieg moved to Miami with her boyfriend and worked at a Hot Topic clothing store while taking business classes.
"She was happier being in Florida," said Krieg's sister, Bridget, who now lives in Waterbury.
But Jennifer Krieg, who also is survived by a brother, James Krieg of Greenwich, never forgot about her friends and often would return to town to visit them, especially Amanda McGovern, a best friend who shared the same birthday.
McGovern could not be reached for comment. Cohen said Krieg's friends have been calling each other and are torn by her death.
"At this point, I'm so worn out from crying," Cohen said, adding that she and her mother intend to return to town today to pay their respects.
Calling hours are scheduled from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. tomorrow at Fred D. Knapp & Son Funeral Home, 267 Greenwich Ave. Krieg is to be cremated and there will be no funeral. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to St. Catherine's Church Youth Group, 4 Riverside Ave. Riverside, 06878.
Copyright © 2006, Southern Connecticut Newspapers, Inc.
she was my friend, she was best friends with one of my good friends, and her sister dated my friend stone for a long time. (they were engaged, but last i heard they weren't together anymore. i don't know what happened since, though.) she was cool, and we would hang out during opens and before and after school. i got drunk for the first time at a party that she was at. i played cards with her often at lunch. she'd accompany me occasionally when i'd borrow our friends car to go get starbucks and cigarettes. and she was always a little crazy, but mostly in a good way.
and then, as happens in high school, we graduated and we grew apart. because we weren't *good* friends, i hardly thought about her. once in a while, maybe, when i was in a nostalgic mood, but otherwise not at all. she messaged me, on myspace, about a month ago. i kept meaning to write her back and i just.....never got a chance. part of me was afraid. part of me was hiding. part of me was running away. i didn't know what to say, i didn't know what we would talk about. i didn't want to reminisce. not then, not now. i don't want to think about it.
but now she's gone, and i'm here. i don't know what to do, or say. i feel like it would be good for me to go to the service, it's tomorrow night, i think i *could* make it there. but i keep finding excuses not to. and i don't know her family, like, at all, except for her sister and not only do i not know if she remembers me, but even if she does i'm not really sure she ever really liked me. i feel pretty sad, and pretty bad, and kind of lost. i don't understand how this could happen. i feel like shit that i never messaged her back, and i feel like shit that we didn't keep in touch. and now i don't know what to do, or what to think, or what to say.
i messaged her best friend (who also went to high school with us) on myspace and expressed my condolences, and asked if she could give me some kind of contact information for her family. i don't know if it was appropriate, i have no idea, especially since she was in the car accident with her. it probably wasn't. i don't know what to do in times like these. i'm not good with emotional situations (as i'm sure several of my exes and friends would be willing to attest to). i want to say and do the right thing, but who knows what that is? and i've been looking all over the internet and it all seems to assume that you're close to the family or at least the deceased. and we were never *terribly* close. so i don't know what's appropriate. i don't know what to do.
other than that, the rest of my day consisted of working from home because it started snowing like, as i was trying to decide whether or not to stay home. so i stayed home and it worked out well. i got some work done, not as much as i'd hoped because my computer decided to choke right around 5pm, but some. everything i needed to, anyway, which i guess is what's important.
and i just found out that dave foley is on this week's episode of scrubs......which, as per usual with me, suddenly makes everything all better.
anyway. so. that was my day. deep, huh? damn.
mwah.
~a
ETA: let me just add that you should never, EVER, believe my brother if he says he's going to do something. it doesn't matter how much he promises or swears it'll get done. if he doesn't do it right away, or if it's important to you but not to him? IT ISN'T HAPPENING. thank you, and good night.