The Book of Questions
Question #23: While on a trip to another city, your lover meets and spends the night with an exciting stranger. Given that they will never meet again, and that you will not otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it? If roles were reversed, would you reveal what you had done?
Answer: Upon deep contemplation, I decided I would want to be told. There is no such thing as blissful ignorance. I would deserve to know the truth, regardless of how fleeting the moment was. The lover should care enough about me and respect me enough to be the one to tell me right away. I should only find out from one person. If there is total honesty and straight forwardness, the couple can discuss what happened, forgive, try to find out why it happened, learn from the experience, and most importantly, make sure it never happened again. Honesty is the only way a relationship can grow stronger from something like that. People make mistakes and can be forgiven. Strength and growth can increase in the most adverse situations. Tacky catchphrase: Love can make anything work.
In the reverse, of course I would tell. I would not want to live that lie and suffer in silence. I would want him to know the kind of person I am, the person they were with. If the person thought what I did was terrible enough to leave me, then I deserve to suffer the consequences of my actions. If they still wanted me, at least we would all know the truth. We could build stronger trust. It takes more courage to tell the truth than to hide your mistakes or run from them. I would want him to know that every second I regretted my decision and how it affected our relationship and him personally. If this was something that I did, I would want to be there for the person I hurt. Strength and honesty are more respectable than cowardice, even from the person who showed great momentary weakness. How someone handles themselves after they make a mistake is more important than their actions during the mistake.
Steps of soapbox. Removes thinking cap.
Answer: Upon deep contemplation, I decided I would want to be told. There is no such thing as blissful ignorance. I would deserve to know the truth, regardless of how fleeting the moment was. The lover should care enough about me and respect me enough to be the one to tell me right away. I should only find out from one person. If there is total honesty and straight forwardness, the couple can discuss what happened, forgive, try to find out why it happened, learn from the experience, and most importantly, make sure it never happened again. Honesty is the only way a relationship can grow stronger from something like that. People make mistakes and can be forgiven. Strength and growth can increase in the most adverse situations. Tacky catchphrase: Love can make anything work.
In the reverse, of course I would tell. I would not want to live that lie and suffer in silence. I would want him to know the kind of person I am, the person they were with. If the person thought what I did was terrible enough to leave me, then I deserve to suffer the consequences of my actions. If they still wanted me, at least we would all know the truth. We could build stronger trust. It takes more courage to tell the truth than to hide your mistakes or run from them. I would want him to know that every second I regretted my decision and how it affected our relationship and him personally. If this was something that I did, I would want to be there for the person I hurt. Strength and honesty are more respectable than cowardice, even from the person who showed great momentary weakness. How someone handles themselves after they make a mistake is more important than their actions during the mistake.
Steps of soapbox. Removes thinking cap.