I'm not funny.
Look. I just want to go through my night meeting others needs and also having my own needs met. Is that too much to fucking ask most of the time? I feel like I spend so much of my time in fucking need limbo. There are so many reasons for it. And if I use any examples everyone who reads this, (all three of you) will suddenly feel like it's you I'm talking about. And then I'll have to deal with it. And who the fuck wants that.
I want to make some guidelines for all those who hang out with me and pass them out in list form before all social time begins. And they wouldn't be hard rules. Pay attention to all those in the group. Listen to the words people are saying as well as the tone of voice they are using. Always keep in mind how you would like to be treated and then treat others as such. If you really want to talk about something, take the time to listen. If you are afraid to talk, drink or smoke more and do it anyways. Groups work when trust can be established. When you feel the need to be dramatic, take a step back and think about something else before you get started again. If you are sexually attracted to a member of the group, either save it until everyone else passes out or make a date for later. Know that there is actually middle ground between caring so much about what people think that you don't dare say shit and just saying whatever the fuck because who cares. And that middle ground is what makes good conversations happen.
If you can do even a little bit of that, you will find that suddenly you will start leaving the conversation happier than you left. Not frustrated or upset. You will probably find that once you are able to find solace in a group, the group will find solace in you.
It doesn't happen often. It takes the commitment of the whole group. But it can be done. And everyone will find peace and community.
Ha. Or whatever.
I want to make some guidelines for all those who hang out with me and pass them out in list form before all social time begins. And they wouldn't be hard rules. Pay attention to all those in the group. Listen to the words people are saying as well as the tone of voice they are using. Always keep in mind how you would like to be treated and then treat others as such. If you really want to talk about something, take the time to listen. If you are afraid to talk, drink or smoke more and do it anyways. Groups work when trust can be established. When you feel the need to be dramatic, take a step back and think about something else before you get started again. If you are sexually attracted to a member of the group, either save it until everyone else passes out or make a date for later. Know that there is actually middle ground between caring so much about what people think that you don't dare say shit and just saying whatever the fuck because who cares. And that middle ground is what makes good conversations happen.
If you can do even a little bit of that, you will find that suddenly you will start leaving the conversation happier than you left. Not frustrated or upset. You will probably find that once you are able to find solace in a group, the group will find solace in you.
It doesn't happen often. It takes the commitment of the whole group. But it can be done. And everyone will find peace and community.
Ha. Or whatever.