yeah yeah yeah, i know i havent posted in ages
do i look like i really care that i haven't made a real post in ages? no. know why? because i havent really had anything to bitch about.
hubby and i are in couples therapy. things are actually improving. it is funny as hell when we fight now. we are trying to use these new communication tricks our therapist gave us and we usually end up laughing at each other. which is a good thing cause then we forget what we were fighting about.
hubby is really trying around the house too. he has been really good about keeping the dishes caught up and taking out the trash. those are his chores and he is actually doing them without me constantly having to gripe at him. amazing! we sorta went out on a date the other night too. that was fun and strange. our therapist says one of the biggest problems in marriages is that you stop dating each other. so we tried going out on a date. it was fun. the strange part? our son came with us! but it was fun. i know i keep repeating that, but it has been such a long time since we went out and didnt fight and actually had fun. i was very happy.
so far, no real fights in like two weeks or so. we have had a few spats and an almost screaming fight. the screaming fight was me being worried sick about him when he didnt come home as promised one night. we solved that problem by agreeing that he would take the cell phone with him from now on and when i get worried, i can just call him. see, learning to problem solve and not just yell. :)
anyhoo...just wanted to let my peeps know that things are going good. life is getting better and my marriage just may be on the mend after all. strange how that works. i was all ready to give up and just go through the motions until i could get a divorce and now, i am really wanting this to work out. i guess it helps that my hubby is really trying and making the effort. it makes me feel like he does really love me.
until next time, peace and blessings.
hubby and i are in couples therapy. things are actually improving. it is funny as hell when we fight now. we are trying to use these new communication tricks our therapist gave us and we usually end up laughing at each other. which is a good thing cause then we forget what we were fighting about.
hubby is really trying around the house too. he has been really good about keeping the dishes caught up and taking out the trash. those are his chores and he is actually doing them without me constantly having to gripe at him. amazing! we sorta went out on a date the other night too. that was fun and strange. our therapist says one of the biggest problems in marriages is that you stop dating each other. so we tried going out on a date. it was fun. the strange part? our son came with us! but it was fun. i know i keep repeating that, but it has been such a long time since we went out and didnt fight and actually had fun. i was very happy.
so far, no real fights in like two weeks or so. we have had a few spats and an almost screaming fight. the screaming fight was me being worried sick about him when he didnt come home as promised one night. we solved that problem by agreeing that he would take the cell phone with him from now on and when i get worried, i can just call him. see, learning to problem solve and not just yell. :)
anyhoo...just wanted to let my peeps know that things are going good. life is getting better and my marriage just may be on the mend after all. strange how that works. i was all ready to give up and just go through the motions until i could get a divorce and now, i am really wanting this to work out. i guess it helps that my hubby is really trying and making the effort. it makes me feel like he does really love me.
until next time, peace and blessings.