forgiveness?
Myrtle: You know I know this man put a hurtin' on you baby, but you've got to forgive him. No matter what he done, you've got to forgive him - not for him, but for you.
Helen: Forgive him for me?
Myrtle: When some body hurts you they take power over you, if you don't forgive them then they keeps the power. Forgive him baby and after you forgive him, forgive youreself.
The rest of what I couldn't find on IMBD was on how you will continue to be bad and want revenge/inflict pain... on someone until you really have finally forgiven them. You won't want to in act revenge anymore on them anymore. Helen had been done really wrong by her husband. But then situations changed and he was in a position where he needed her and in the beginning she treated him just as badly as he treated her. But finally she forgave him. She was able to stop feeling the need for... "revenge", let go of the anger, and ultimately move on through forgiveness.
I thought about how I'm just not quite there yet. There is still a part of me that is really hurt... really angry. That the reason I'm still plagued by certain things, situations, and past interpersonal relationships is b/c I haven't been able to fully get to that place where I have forgiven them and myself. There is a still a tiny part of me holding on to the pain and resentment. But I feel like I'm on the verge. Like the internal switch is half way flicked into the position of finally being healed--finally being o.k., have forgiven and have let go. I'm not sure what push needs to happen to get the rest of the way. I suppose thinking and writing this is part of that process. Allowing myself to say... it REALLY is o.k. to let all the pain go. That is the past is the past and it shouldn't and can't hurt me anymore.
Now if I could only somehow managed to get my emotional center to agree with what makes sense and the progress I've made that would real great.
Helen: Forgive him for me?
Myrtle: When some body hurts you they take power over you, if you don't forgive them then they keeps the power. Forgive him baby and after you forgive him, forgive youreself.
The rest of what I couldn't find on IMBD was on how you will continue to be bad and want revenge/inflict pain... on someone until you really have finally forgiven them. You won't want to in act revenge anymore on them anymore. Helen had been done really wrong by her husband. But then situations changed and he was in a position where he needed her and in the beginning she treated him just as badly as he treated her. But finally she forgave him. She was able to stop feeling the need for... "revenge", let go of the anger, and ultimately move on through forgiveness.
I thought about how I'm just not quite there yet. There is still a part of me that is really hurt... really angry. That the reason I'm still plagued by certain things, situations, and past interpersonal relationships is b/c I haven't been able to fully get to that place where I have forgiven them and myself. There is a still a tiny part of me holding on to the pain and resentment. But I feel like I'm on the verge. Like the internal switch is half way flicked into the position of finally being healed--finally being o.k., have forgiven and have let go. I'm not sure what push needs to happen to get the rest of the way. I suppose thinking and writing this is part of that process. Allowing myself to say... it REALLY is o.k. to let all the pain go. That is the past is the past and it shouldn't and can't hurt me anymore.
Now if I could only somehow managed to get my emotional center to agree with what makes sense and the progress I've made that would real great.