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“I don’t like to prep. I don’t like to make out. I want a service pig who would suck me hard and open his hole for me to plow.” “I love to fuck and bb, but I’m not a fan of ass. That’s why I’m a mouth fucker. I fuck mouth and cum down the guy’s throat or they would swallow. No rubber. I pin them down in bed and I straddle their face.”
“Looking for tonight? I host here.” “Prefer bb thou. I'm on prep. Love seeding in too. You can count on prep guys even when you're not on prep. So let me know.” “I've recently got tested too, all neg. But condoms don't work for me. Sorry.” “You wouldn’t make me cum by asking me to wear a condom.” “I've been on prep before and after prep and I noticed the big difference. I used to get std often before, but after prep, it's been very rare even though I've been very active still.” “You worry too much, prep guys are safe nowadays lol.”
These are two examples of toxic bachelors I’ve had the bad luck of chatting with recently. I am thankful I have a strong sense of self and self respect to know I am right, they are wrong and I don’t have to believe them or submit to their world view. Do they know who they are talking to? I have the foresight and restraint not to say this to them, but I have wants and needs too and what they are saying is not what I am looking for. This is just the type of truth that ruins friendships, so I am going to keep it to myself. At the same time, I’m no longer on vacation or pretending to be interested in their fantasies that don’t align with what I’m looking for, so I am just going to stop texting them and that’s where it’ll end.
These days, I find many if not most guys are only into barebacking. That’s because they are on prep. I on the other hand have too much self respect to ever bareback, with prep or without. I see barebacking as dirty, because it’s like you’re not only having sex with that particular person, but with everyone they’ve had sex with, and everyone they’ve had sex with and so on. While I may trust the guys I immediately have sex with, I do not trust their judgment and discernment and am in fact quite certain they have not always made good decisions sexually and have some previous sex partners in their repertoire that were questionable.
How did we get there? Ten years ago, condoms were the norm. However, over the past ten years, I noticed more and more “Negative, on prep” statuses. Then I noticed guys with that status increasingly only have bareback sex, which brings us to today. The majority of guys my age (early to mid 30s) are now on prep and only have bareback sex, refusing to have sex with condoms, saying condoms don’t work for them. Remember that story of, “what would you do if everyone jumped off a bridge?” It feels like currently everyone is jumping off the bridge like lemmings and I am standing at the top of the cliff refusing to jump. People are such sheep. Even in San Francisco, which I thought was a place where people think for themselves, but no it isn’t. Just as lemming as people in the Midwest, the south, the northeast and everywhere else in the country and the world. Pretty sad state of affairs, but like I said, I don’t care. I don’t need anyone’s approval or to be like everyone else. I’m not like everyone else and that’s a good thing.