how to help my GF?
Here's the situation:
My girlfriend's mother found out her daughter and I are dating about 2 months ago, "someone" called to "inform" her that i was dating her daughter. At home, she had always referred to me as female, and thus her mother now thinks she's in a lesbic relationship. Ever since, hell broke loose in my GFs home. Her mother incessantly calls her names, insults her, has even gone to call her a whore, telling her to get a box of condoms and sleeping with men to get things straight (both literally and metaphorically), and telling her that it would be better if she had gotten pregnant and had the baby than to be a lesbian. Those are some of the things my GF has let me know... but i know there's a lot she doesnt tell me of those things her mother tells her. Her mother has also threatened with kicking her out of the house, and one day even got as far as throwing her things out the door... But they're mostly just threats to make my GFs life miserable.
Its not just her mother, her younger sister is a troublemaker and at any chance she gets she stirs things up, causes fights and whatnot. Her father doesnt support it, and is getting tired of the problems at home, caused by mother and sister.
Its quite a terrible situation at her place, and obviously i cant do anything to help her because i just make things worse, her family doesnt even know me and they already hate me... All i can do is offer her all my support, she knows she could crash at my place for a while if she gets kicked out, she knows that she can count on me for anything i can help her with.
Things keep getting worse at her home and now my GF has told me she's begun to think about leaving. However, there are several problems. If she leaves home it would be without support from her family, and its not going to be a peaceful leaving. We are both currently in college, she doesnt work and has no means of supporting herself whatsoever. Vet school is a full time commitment, particularly the last 4 semesters (in which we are), and leaves little to no time to get a job and work... I still live with my mother, and am still totally dependent on my parents for economic support. I cant support myself, i know now is not the time to try and become independent, much less to try and support myself AND someone else.
So i dont know how i can help my GF in her situation, other than offering her my support and being by her side in all this... But it makes me feel impotent, i want to help somehow... Any comments would be greatly appreciated.
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My girlfriend's mother found out her daughter and I are dating about 2 months ago, "someone" called to "inform" her that i was dating her daughter. At home, she had always referred to me as female, and thus her mother now thinks she's in a lesbic relationship. Ever since, hell broke loose in my GFs home. Her mother incessantly calls her names, insults her, has even gone to call her a whore, telling her to get a box of condoms and sleeping with men to get things straight (both literally and metaphorically), and telling her that it would be better if she had gotten pregnant and had the baby than to be a lesbian. Those are some of the things my GF has let me know... but i know there's a lot she doesnt tell me of those things her mother tells her. Her mother has also threatened with kicking her out of the house, and one day even got as far as throwing her things out the door... But they're mostly just threats to make my GFs life miserable.
Its not just her mother, her younger sister is a troublemaker and at any chance she gets she stirs things up, causes fights and whatnot. Her father doesnt support it, and is getting tired of the problems at home, caused by mother and sister.
Its quite a terrible situation at her place, and obviously i cant do anything to help her because i just make things worse, her family doesnt even know me and they already hate me... All i can do is offer her all my support, she knows she could crash at my place for a while if she gets kicked out, she knows that she can count on me for anything i can help her with.
Things keep getting worse at her home and now my GF has told me she's begun to think about leaving. However, there are several problems. If she leaves home it would be without support from her family, and its not going to be a peaceful leaving. We are both currently in college, she doesnt work and has no means of supporting herself whatsoever. Vet school is a full time commitment, particularly the last 4 semesters (in which we are), and leaves little to no time to get a job and work... I still live with my mother, and am still totally dependent on my parents for economic support. I cant support myself, i know now is not the time to try and become independent, much less to try and support myself AND someone else.
So i dont know how i can help my GF in her situation, other than offering her my support and being by her side in all this... But it makes me feel impotent, i want to help somehow... Any comments would be greatly appreciated.
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