Crossroads
The other day, I received an e-mail from a good friend of mine mentioning how he was at a crossroads regarding his career, unsure of the direction that he should go in. The transmission was more of a vent, than a request for help; I decided to reply with advice since I had mentally suffered the same level of anguish only days before.
At this point in our lives, we're deciding what our ultimate goal is going to be. Some have large goals, some have small goals, and some are content with living day to day, appreciating each and every moment that they experience from eyes open to eyes shut.
However, some decide from the get-go that there's one grand achievement that they're striving toward, and each step they take is one toward this goal. My friend had reached a point in his journey where he had two choices, but was completely indecisive about which he should take. The reason he was unsure, was because he wasn't looking at his proverbial big picture, his ultimate goal.
I know it's easier said than done, but some people get so lost in the day-to-day grind, that they forget what they're driving toward. A while back, I decided what my pinnacle would be, and I started to become more comfortable with the point at which I'm at in my career. My friend needed to firmly decide his pinnacle, so that he could make choices that would help him reach that point.
My advice to him was to discover his pinnacle (if he hadn't already), and then pick the path that would best get him to that point. If both paths merge at the pinnacle, than the choice to pick is the one that you feel the most comfortable with at that moment in time.
Coincidentally, a couple of days ago, a colleague approached me with the same problem, and despite his pinnacle being completely different than the friend that e-mailed me, the decision making process was the same. He should pick the path that will best help him achieve his pinnacle.
I suppose I knew early on what my pinnacle was, but I never really accepted it until a few years ago. A human's mental evolution throughout his/her life is really amazing, and I'm honored that I have the capacity to be able to reflect on my own life.
I've kept a paper journal since I was 11, and despite the occasional gaps, it's kept me well abreast of the cycles that I encounter in my life. For those of that don't write, I suggest starting. It will provide a wealth of knowledge about your own decision making progress as you move forward in your life.
At this point in our lives, we're deciding what our ultimate goal is going to be. Some have large goals, some have small goals, and some are content with living day to day, appreciating each and every moment that they experience from eyes open to eyes shut.
However, some decide from the get-go that there's one grand achievement that they're striving toward, and each step they take is one toward this goal. My friend had reached a point in his journey where he had two choices, but was completely indecisive about which he should take. The reason he was unsure, was because he wasn't looking at his proverbial big picture, his ultimate goal.
I know it's easier said than done, but some people get so lost in the day-to-day grind, that they forget what they're driving toward. A while back, I decided what my pinnacle would be, and I started to become more comfortable with the point at which I'm at in my career. My friend needed to firmly decide his pinnacle, so that he could make choices that would help him reach that point.
My advice to him was to discover his pinnacle (if he hadn't already), and then pick the path that would best get him to that point. If both paths merge at the pinnacle, than the choice to pick is the one that you feel the most comfortable with at that moment in time.
Coincidentally, a couple of days ago, a colleague approached me with the same problem, and despite his pinnacle being completely different than the friend that e-mailed me, the decision making process was the same. He should pick the path that will best help him achieve his pinnacle.
I suppose I knew early on what my pinnacle was, but I never really accepted it until a few years ago. A human's mental evolution throughout his/her life is really amazing, and I'm honored that I have the capacity to be able to reflect on my own life.
I've kept a paper journal since I was 11, and despite the occasional gaps, it's kept me well abreast of the cycles that I encounter in my life. For those of that don't write, I suggest starting. It will provide a wealth of knowledge about your own decision making progress as you move forward in your life.