It's Done
That's it, I'm done. It's done.
I sat the BF down and told him I was finished.
I gave him a month to show improvement. He showed a little, bit, emphasis on LITTLE.
He got a new job that he likes and pays better, which is great. And he finally cleared some space in the Storage like I've been bugging him to do for MONTHS. But that is it.
The list of things that haven't changed is as follows. And as you can see, it FAR outweighs his accomplishments:
-He hasn't touched me in two freaking MONTHS. And no kids, holding hands and the occupational pick on the cheek does NOT constitute an intimate relationship.
-He hasn't gone to credit counseling or done ANYTHING about his money issues which means
-He's still not buying groceries or contributing to household expense beyond his share of eh bills and buying toilet paper.
-He doesn't talk to me! We talk about comics, movies/tv and D&D. NOTHING about what's going on in his life, never asks about mine beyond how I'm doing on a given day.
-He hasn't gone to the doctor and gotten that therapist referral (we're Canadian so if he gets a referral form his GP, therapy would be covered by the healthcare).
-He just doesn't think or plan at ALL, he expects me to take charge of freaking EVERYTHING. Even getting him to commit to what kind of take out he wants to order is like pulling teeth. Hell we were going to TDK at Imax on Sunday and when I'm ready to go at 6:25 for the 7pm showing (we live five minutes from the Imax) He decides it would be a good idea to eat something...this when he's been sitting at the computer for the last HOUR while I got ready.
Oh there is more, but if I list it all, I think I'll have to start hitting my head against something. In short, he wanted me to be his mommy replacement who told him what to do and cleaned up after him. And I just won't DO that, I have too much self-respect. I want a PARTNER, someone that will let me love them and help them and take care of them, but will then turn around and do all that for ME. I want someone that doesn't HAVE to be pushed about pulling their own weight and doing the blindingly obvious. I want someone who understand that a snuggle on the couch is as good as an expensive dinner out.
*SIGH*
Maybe I'm expecting to much, but I'm finished with this relationship. I've told him we're done and that he's to be moved out by Nov. 1st. I don't want a roommate so he's got to go, even if we manage to remain friends.
I sat the BF down and told him I was finished.
I gave him a month to show improvement. He showed a little, bit, emphasis on LITTLE.
He got a new job that he likes and pays better, which is great. And he finally cleared some space in the Storage like I've been bugging him to do for MONTHS. But that is it.
The list of things that haven't changed is as follows. And as you can see, it FAR outweighs his accomplishments:
-He hasn't touched me in two freaking MONTHS. And no kids, holding hands and the occupational pick on the cheek does NOT constitute an intimate relationship.
-He hasn't gone to credit counseling or done ANYTHING about his money issues which means
-He's still not buying groceries or contributing to household expense beyond his share of eh bills and buying toilet paper.
-He doesn't talk to me! We talk about comics, movies/tv and D&D. NOTHING about what's going on in his life, never asks about mine beyond how I'm doing on a given day.
-He hasn't gone to the doctor and gotten that therapist referral (we're Canadian so if he gets a referral form his GP, therapy would be covered by the healthcare).
-He just doesn't think or plan at ALL, he expects me to take charge of freaking EVERYTHING. Even getting him to commit to what kind of take out he wants to order is like pulling teeth. Hell we were going to TDK at Imax on Sunday and when I'm ready to go at 6:25 for the 7pm showing (we live five minutes from the Imax) He decides it would be a good idea to eat something...this when he's been sitting at the computer for the last HOUR while I got ready.
Oh there is more, but if I list it all, I think I'll have to start hitting my head against something. In short, he wanted me to be his mommy replacement who told him what to do and cleaned up after him. And I just won't DO that, I have too much self-respect. I want a PARTNER, someone that will let me love them and help them and take care of them, but will then turn around and do all that for ME. I want someone that doesn't HAVE to be pushed about pulling their own weight and doing the blindingly obvious. I want someone who understand that a snuggle on the couch is as good as an expensive dinner out.
*SIGH*
Maybe I'm expecting to much, but I'm finished with this relationship. I've told him we're done and that he's to be moved out by Nov. 1st. I don't want a roommate so he's got to go, even if we manage to remain friends.