Well, if you can learn something, you can always learn something differently or unlearn what you learned. It just takes a lot of practice, and encouragement.
That article is great, and should be posted everywhere. Like: at bus stops. On the menus at restaurants. Not only could it help parents not make that (stupid!) mistake, but it could explain to a whole generation of parents for whom it is now too late WHY their so brilliant and promising children are a bunch of dropout failures! (Self included here, don't anybody be TOO offended!) :D My parents are still doing it, although StalkerMom has added some refinements of her own, due to the fact that HER parents did it to her too! Argh!
Oh, I dunno... I mean, going to group sounds like such a lame solution... an admission of dependency... surely a bunch of smart creative people like us can just kind of dig in our teeth and resist any help in fixing our problems? Everything will work out by itself in our favor eventually, right?
I have to repost that. It nearly made me cry. We need to start a support group or something.
I decided to major in art even though I've always believed I'm no good at it. I used to be "good at it". And then I kept drawing the same things over and over and over again because I knew I would be praised for those pictures, I had been before. Those were "the things I could draw". Everything else was inviting failure. This is probably why my drawing class has repeatedly brought me to tears this semester.
I think the effects of constant criticism are well documented. How can a child grow up to have any confidence when all they're ever told is how bad they are? It works a lot in the same way as the praise thing, I'd assume. If you're constantly being hassled for being 'stupid', rather than being criticized for a certain thing you did, you have no control over it and you don't know what to do to fix it. You try your hardest, but when you're lead to believe that what's wrong with you is innate (as in, someone telling you you're stupid rather than explaining to you what they thought you did wrong), you just come to accept that as your lot in life, or something
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Well, if you can learn something, you can always learn something differently or unlearn what you learned. It just takes a lot of practice, and encouragement.
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I decided to major in art even though I've always believed I'm no good at it. I used to be "good at it". And then I kept drawing the same things over and over and over again because I knew I would be praised for those pictures, I had been before. Those were "the things I could draw". Everything else was inviting failure. This is probably why my drawing class has repeatedly brought me to tears this semester.
I thank you so much for posting this.
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