♣at which point/what age did you realize you had this sexual orientation? It's hard to pin it down... I had my first crush on a boy at six, first crush on a girl at eight, started to consider that I might be bi around 13, but I didn't really fully come to terms with it/admit it to myself until last year (21). Also, since there were only three options, I picked bisexual, but I actually consider myself pansexual :3 It wasn't until I became aware of that term that I was fully okay with my sexuality.
♣Was there a moment or a period of time you were confused about your sexuality? Yes! For a long time, about from when I was 13 to last year, I considered myself, in Kinsey's terms, "predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual", meaning that I was mostly straight with the occasional crush on a girl, but I felt that I had no actual want to be in a relationship with a girl. But then I'd have times where all I liked were girls. The more comfortable I've gotten with it, the more I've allowed myself to realize that I actually would rather have a girlfriend than a boyfriend, even though gender doesn't really seem to make a difference in terms of how attracted I am to a person.
♣Are you openly gay/bisexual? If you are, did your relatives and peers react positively or negatively? If you are not, please explain further. Somewhat? I mean, generally, if someone asks, I'll tell them the truth, but I don't feel the need to like... "warn" people about who I might date. I just figure that if they see me with a boyfriend, they'll know I like boys. If they see me with a girlfriend, they'll know I like girls. If they see me with someone whose gender they can't quite figure out, then won't that mess with their heads? XD As for my relatives... I have an ultra-conservative family, so it's not something I would discuss casually. It's basically like I already said, they'll know if they need to know. My mom is a lesbian, so I guess a lot of people would think it'd be easier to tell her? But she's actually the only person I actively hide my sexuality from. She, like a lot of people who have struggled with being accepted as gay, doesn't have the best view of anyone who isn't monosexual.
♣Do you think there are certain factors or influences that lead you to become gay/bisexual? What are these factors/influences? I do think so, actually. I believe in both Freud's theory of innate bisexuality and his theory of polymorphous perversion, together basically the idea that every person is born bisexual and able to get sexual pleasure in more ways than is usually thought, but through psychological development and societal conditioning tends in some direction or another. I also believe a lot more in nurture when it comes to the debate of nature vs. nurture, soooo. Yeah. That being said, I don't think it's a choice, nor do I think it matters if it is or not, seeing as it's not something that needs to be changed.
♣As a gay/bisexual person, is it difficult to interact with others once they learn of your sexual orientation? Have you been put in situations where people have outcast or avoided you because of your sexual orientation? There have definitely been difficult situations~ :/ People seem to think that not being monosexual = being promiscuous. Now, I don't necessarily think that being promiscuous is all bad, but it's annoying to be shoved into some stereotype that doesn't fit you. The one thing that sticks out in my mind as particularly annoying was when one of my friends said she'd never date a bisexual guy, 'cause he'd be twice as likely to cheat on her. All this, of course, right after I'd told her I thought I was bisexual~ >> People seem to think it's okay to say things like that. Mostly, though, I haven't been outcast or avoided, no. Apart from awkward and ignorant remarks, it's been okay.
♣Do you think that people of this generation are more accepting of gays/bisexuals than people of the previous generations? Why? Yes? I guess people are just more aware of it now, so they're more conditioned to not care as much about it.
Sorry, I totally went off on Freud fangirl tangents OTL I hope this is helpful, though? :D?
♣at which point/what age did you realize you had this sexual orientation? It's hard to pin it down... I had my first crush on a boy at six, first crush on a girl at eight, started to consider that I might be bi around 13, but I didn't really fully come to terms with it/admit it to myself until last year (21). Also, since there were only three options, I picked bisexual, but I actually consider myself pansexual :3 It wasn't until I became aware of that term that I was fully okay with my sexuality.
♣Was there a moment or a period of time you were confused about your sexuality? Yes! For a long time, about from when I was 13 to last year, I considered myself, in Kinsey's terms, "predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual", meaning that I was mostly straight with the occasional crush on a girl, but I felt that I had no actual want to be in a relationship with a girl. But then I'd have times where all I liked were girls. The more comfortable I've gotten with it, the more I've allowed myself to realize that I actually would rather have a girlfriend than a boyfriend, even though gender doesn't really seem to make a difference in terms of how attracted I am to a person.
♣Are you openly gay/bisexual? If you are, did your relatives and peers react positively or negatively? If you are not, please explain further. Somewhat? I mean, generally, if someone asks, I'll tell them the truth, but I don't feel the need to like... "warn" people about who I might date. I just figure that if they see me with a boyfriend, they'll know I like boys. If they see me with a girlfriend, they'll know I like girls. If they see me with someone whose gender they can't quite figure out, then won't that mess with their heads? XD As for my relatives... I have an ultra-conservative family, so it's not something I would discuss casually. It's basically like I already said, they'll know if they need to know. My mom is a lesbian, so I guess a lot of people would think it'd be easier to tell her? But she's actually the only person I actively hide my sexuality from. She, like a lot of people who have struggled with being accepted as gay, doesn't have the best view of anyone who isn't monosexual.
♣Do you think there are certain factors or influences that lead you to become gay/bisexual? What are these factors/influences? I do think so, actually. I believe in both Freud's theory of innate bisexuality and his theory of polymorphous perversion, together basically the idea that every person is born bisexual and able to get sexual pleasure in more ways than is usually thought, but through psychological development and societal conditioning tends in some direction or another. I also believe a lot more in nurture when it comes to the debate of nature vs. nurture, soooo. Yeah. That being said, I don't think it's a choice, nor do I think it matters if it is or not, seeing as it's not something that needs to be changed.
♣As a gay/bisexual person, is it difficult to interact with others once they learn of your sexual orientation? Have you been put in situations where people have outcast or avoided you because of your sexual orientation? There have definitely been difficult situations~ :/ People seem to think that not being monosexual = being promiscuous. Now, I don't necessarily think that being promiscuous is all bad, but it's annoying to be shoved into some stereotype that doesn't fit you. The one thing that sticks out in my mind as particularly annoying was when one of my friends said she'd never date a bisexual guy, 'cause he'd be twice as likely to cheat on her. All this, of course, right after I'd told her I thought I was bisexual~ >> People seem to think it's okay to say things like that. Mostly, though, I haven't been outcast or avoided, no. Apart from awkward and ignorant remarks, it's been okay.
♣Do you think that people of this generation are more accepting of gays/bisexuals than people of the previous generations? Why? Yes? I guess people are just more aware of it now, so they're more conditioned to not care as much about it.
Sorry, I totally went off on Freud fangirl tangents OTL I hope this is helpful, though? :D?
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