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[airportstory]

Hmm this has been on my mind. Today me and my friend were pointing out each others flaws (thats how you can tell a real friend from a non real one.) anyway, he pointed out that i can tend to have a "bit of a snoby side to me

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[esophag0r]

I dislike people who pity themselves. I also hate when I would express something that's wrong, for example, not having slept at all last night, and then they have to come up with something worse than that so that I'll pity them. Such as, "Well, how about me! I haven't slept... blablabla" A lot of the time, their comebacks are just stupid and not actually worse than mine. Once I admitted to not having slept more than 3 hours a night for the past 3 weeks. Some idiot said "Oh well what about me!! I only slept SIX hours last night!!!" Some people are just like that, and will always want to be the ones who get pitied. I can't stand that in people, and if they think that them being 'worse' than me will make me feel better, they need to get a fucking clue.

I can understand what you say here, and I also have this 'snobby' attitude that you describe. I, like you, believe that I've been through a lot, and I know that I have. It does tend to make me think that in a way that makes me 'better' than other people, because I was strong enough to get through it, or I have more life experience, etc etc.

Like you, I don't like feeling superior to other people, and it's strange to me when I do feel superior, because I have such low self-esteem. It's a total contradiction!!

I can't tell you how many times I want to tell people to "Suck it up and deal with it." Two weeks ago I went out with a friend and she forgot a necklace at my place (we had got ready to go out at my place), and she kept moaning about "Oh, but I need to know where it is! I have OCD! I'm going to keep worrying about it!!" But then, we had a normal night out and she apparently forgot about it. When I had OCD, I found it impossible to have any sort of conversation. I was like a vegetable sitting at a table, reading the label on the beer bottle over and over and over again, ad nauseum, all fucking night long. No, I don't believe this friend of mine has OCD. I wanted to punch her in the teeth for being so fucking stupid.

I don't think all this does make you an elitist bitch. I think it makes you realize that in life you can't always get by with pity, relying on other people, or attention whoring. Too many people are like that. I'm proud to not be a person like that. I've learnt to rely on myself and nobody else. Perhaps that's not the best way to be, but I'd rather be like that than someone who can't deal with anything at all without having a cow and bitching about it all the time.

The last point you make about compensation, that's so true. I understand perfectly the point you're making. Like my contradiction of low self-esteem, but then believing that all the hardship I've been through has made me somehow 'better' than others.

Wow, I apologize for the tl;dr.

[airportstory]

Oh god you are exactly like me. I'm glad someone else can relate to me on this topic. It's really true that some people just have a built in pity factor and therefor people are nicer to them. it irks the hell out of me.

likewise, i myself can tend to be overly independant. and i totally get you on the ocd thing. actually i think you might be my twin, lol, we would probz get along either really well or not at all because we are independant women!

i loved the long comment. good to know im not the only one!

[esophag0r]

I can't bring myself to be nice to people with the pity factor. Even if I try to at least be polite, I can't. The desire to scream at them and tell them exactly what I think about them, it prevents me from being nice and smiley. lol

We probably would get on very well :) I'm not an independent person though. I often worry that I'm too dependent on people - my Mum, and my fiancé. Oh well :D I could latch onto you and never let you go *squish* o__o