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My son is throwing one hell of a shit fit as we speak.
We have a rule in our house. It is simple, but I want it to happen everyday. You take ONE BITE out of anything served. ONE BITE. So tonight I served the kids chicken, potato salad and coleslaw and my son just ate the chicken and without saying anything to me, got up and threw away the rest of his food. Not taking his one bite.
I told him to go to his bed (for a timeout). He started kicking and throwing things in anger. (He does have a hell of a temper on him). I went in and told him to stop or I would be spanking him. He didn't stop, instead he yelled at me, I spanked him.
What I should have done is told him he was going to be paying me for his temper. I didn't think of it because, well, I was too ticked with his temper. I should have put myself in a timeout before dealing with him. Not feeling good isn't a good excuse for spanking out of frustraition.
I am not anti-spanking. I am very anti-spanking in any kind of emotional angst and usually there are other ways of dealing with your child than spanking them. I tend to fall back onto how I was raised. I hate that, so I have been trying to not spank.
So, now I am feeling rotten, he is in his room cussing me out (in an eight year old kinda way). I am out here writing this.
Update:
My husband called and talked to my son. My son apologised for being rude, and for backtalking, and for throwing away good food. He went into his room to pick it up (the things he kicked) and hopefully he will be calmer going into the rest of the night.
We have a rule in our house. It is simple, but I want it to happen everyday. You take ONE BITE out of anything served. ONE BITE. So tonight I served the kids chicken, potato salad and coleslaw and my son just ate the chicken and without saying anything to me, got up and threw away the rest of his food. Not taking his one bite.
I told him to go to his bed (for a timeout). He started kicking and throwing things in anger. (He does have a hell of a temper on him). I went in and told him to stop or I would be spanking him. He didn't stop, instead he yelled at me, I spanked him.
What I should have done is told him he was going to be paying me for his temper. I didn't think of it because, well, I was too ticked with his temper. I should have put myself in a timeout before dealing with him. Not feeling good isn't a good excuse for spanking out of frustraition.
I am not anti-spanking. I am very anti-spanking in any kind of emotional angst and usually there are other ways of dealing with your child than spanking them. I tend to fall back onto how I was raised. I hate that, so I have been trying to not spank.
So, now I am feeling rotten, he is in his room cussing me out (in an eight year old kinda way). I am out here writing this.
Update:
My husband called and talked to my son. My son apologised for being rude, and for backtalking, and for throwing away good food. He went into his room to pick it up (the things he kicked) and hopefully he will be calmer going into the rest of the night.