Since it's already happened once today, I figure I should open it up to whoever wants it. So take today as a defriending-without-guilt day, if you're so inclined.
I waited until this morning to write this, because I wanted to be sure I was being calm and rational about it. Having seen your response on your LJ confirms I was right in my decision last night.
Contrary to popular belief, this is not because you 'dare to disagree' with me. I have plenty of people on my LJ with whom I passionately disagree about things, including the strike. But I found your repeated posting yesterday to be really childish and upsetting. I totally understand that you don't support the strike - lots of my friends don't - but to go all out to rub our faces in it when we're just trying to stand up for what we believe in in our own quiet, pointless way infuriated me.
So I had a long think, and I realised that apart from this isssue, you'd hardly posted over the last year,and we'd had little other contact. That made it seem even worse - why come out of semi-hiatus just to upset people who were trying to do something harmless to you? (Again I reiterate - I have no problem with you expressing your views, or breaking the strike, but to do so with surely the only purpose of irritating and upsetting those who were striking - why? It just seemed pointlessly cruel to me.)
On looking over your recent entries I also realised we have practically nothing in common any more. I have no interest in Guild Wars and you appear to have moved on from fanfiction, so I decided to remove you from my friendslist.
I'm going to post this as a comment on your LJ as well, seeing as you made your feelings about my defriending clear there without waiting to get my reasons, and as we have mutual friends I wish to put my point of view. (I know you didn't mention me by name but it doesn't take more than a scrap of intelligence to work out who it was - I have emails in my inbox about it already.) Of course you can delete it if you wish and I won't return.
This whole thing saddens me very much, because I once considered you a friend. I'm sorry things couldn't have ended in a more dignified and peaceable manner, at least.
I was reading it at 1am, after the strike. Of course I don't mind what anyone writes in their own journal, but I reserve the right not to read it when I find it annoying and uninstructive. I confess I can be a drama queen when it comes to things I feel passionate about, and anyone who wishes to distance themselves from me for that reason or any other is perfectly at liberty to do so.
And I can assure you my knickers are perfectly comfortable, thank you. How are yours these days?
Choosing to defriend me last night and then not give me a reason until quite a bit later means I'm going to have to make assumptions about your reasons, and I never really expected you to give me one. Having now got one, it's pretty much as I assumed.
But I have to say that as much as you were using your journal yesterday to show you supported the strike, I was supporting those who didn't, and who were posting multiple time to get post numbers up. Whether you agree with me or not, and it doesn't bother me that you don't, it's still my journal, and my choices, and I really don't care if you think it's childish. But for you to have taken my actions so personally, when they weren't aimed at you at all, doesn't speak particularly well for your maturity either. I posted to support my side of things, you didn't post in order to support yours. I was showing my opinions just like you were, and while I disagreed with the boycott, I don't feel like I belittled anyone that participated. I never made it personal, and you did.
And please remember that you're the one who brought your name into this, not me. If anyone has contacted you, it has not been at my request or my knowledge. I will be leaving your comment, unless you remove it, as you certainly have the right to explain your motivations without my interference.
And yes, you're right, we've both moved on to different things in our lives, and such is the nature of life. It's the case with a lot of our f-list, it seems. I wish you luck in your future, and I want you to know I bear you no ill will over this. I'm just sorry it happened the way it did.
Thanks. No ill will on my part either. I take your point about supporting those who didn't want to strike - I don't understand why those who weren't striking would need support; surely it's just business as usual for them? But the failure to understand is on my part, not theirs or yours, and I take responsibility for that.
I didn't take it personally in the sense that I thought your actions regarding the strike were a personal attack on me; they were an attack on my views, as it were, but I do appreciate the difference. I didn't intend taking you from my reading list as an attack on yourself either. I have explained my reasons and would emphasise that if we still had things in common I would have no problem with just agreeing to differ on the LJ strike issue. I hope that clears a few things up and we can lay the thing to rest.
Contrary to popular belief, this is not because you 'dare to disagree' with me. I have plenty of people on my LJ with whom I passionately disagree about things, including the strike. But I found your repeated posting yesterday to be really childish and upsetting. I totally understand that you don't support the strike - lots of my friends don't - but to go all out to rub our faces in it when we're just trying to stand up for what we believe in in our own quiet, pointless way infuriated me.
So I had a long think, and I realised that apart from this isssue, you'd hardly posted over the last year,and we'd had little other contact. That made it seem even worse - why come out of semi-hiatus just to upset people who were trying to do something harmless to you? (Again I reiterate - I have no problem with you expressing your views, or breaking the strike, but to do so with surely the only purpose of irritating and upsetting those who were striking - why? It just seemed pointlessly cruel to me.)
On looking over your recent entries I also realised we have practically nothing in common any more. I have no interest in Guild Wars and you appear to have moved on from fanfiction, so I decided to remove you from my friendslist.
I'm going to post this as a comment on your LJ as well, seeing as you made your feelings about my defriending clear there without waiting to get my reasons, and as we have mutual friends I wish to put my point of view. (I know you didn't mention me by name but it doesn't take more than a scrap of intelligence to work out who it was - I have emails in my inbox about it already.) Of course you can delete it if you wish and I won't return.
This whole thing saddens me very much, because I once considered you a friend. I'm sorry things couldn't have ended in a more dignified and peaceable manner, at least.
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And I can assure you my knickers are perfectly comfortable, thank you. How are yours these days?
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But I have to say that as much as you were using your journal yesterday to show you supported the strike, I was supporting those who didn't, and who were posting multiple time to get post numbers up. Whether you agree with me or not, and it doesn't bother me that you don't, it's still my journal, and my choices, and I really don't care if you think it's childish. But for you to have taken my actions so personally, when they weren't aimed at you at all, doesn't speak particularly well for your maturity either. I posted to support my side of things, you didn't post in order to support yours. I was showing my opinions just like you were, and while I disagreed with the boycott, I don't feel like I belittled anyone that participated. I never made it personal, and you did.
And please remember that you're the one who brought your name into this, not me. If anyone has contacted you, it has not been at my request or my knowledge. I will be leaving your comment, unless you remove it, as you certainly have the right to explain your motivations without my interference.
And yes, you're right, we've both moved on to different things in our lives, and such is the nature of life. It's the case with a lot of our f-list, it seems. I wish you luck in your future, and I want you to know I bear you no ill will over this. I'm just sorry it happened the way it did.
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I didn't take it personally in the sense that I thought your actions regarding the strike were a personal attack on me; they were an attack on my views, as it were, but I do appreciate the difference. I didn't intend taking you from my reading list as an attack on yourself either. I have explained my reasons and would emphasise that if we still had things in common I would have no problem with just agreeing to differ on the LJ strike issue. I hope that clears a few things up and we can lay the thing to rest.
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