He was open to the wedding idea I had. I was very seriously considering an Alice in Wonderland theme. Not the cartoony, silly thing, but more elegant. I was thinking of Tommy in a Mad Hatterish type outfit, with an Edwardian bent. I showed him some photos and he was very open to the idea.
He definitely falls into the not so good at dressing himself category, though. My biggest projects in that area right now, honestly are trying to get him to quit wearing white socks ("but that's why my mom always bought me), and to quit wearing plaid shirts. I think he might be cute in kinda crazy plaid pants, a la Michael Hutchence in the Elegantly Wasted video, but cotton plaid shirts... they're just not flattering on him.
I think if I could even get him into nice dress shirts, trousers, and maybe wingtips (I love wingtips!) it wouldn't be less comfie than how he dresses now, but much hotter.
Any tips on how you influenced former boyfriends to dress better? I mostly take a positive approach so far... gifts, and telling him he looks particularly nice in some things, trying to gently say some things don't flatter him as much as others. I have had some success, but I'd be grateful for any tips! :o)
That would be really cool! Has the wedding been and gone or not?
I've never understood white socks!
In the past I've sort of.. just.. ended up buying them only clothes for christmas and birthdays, but in a style that THEY would like, rather than what I want them to dress like. I think I probably bullied my last boyfriend into dressing better, so that probably isn't the best way to go about it!
His mom is extremely practical and even-tempered and ... well, I just don't imagine that it ever crossed her mind to buy him anything aside from white socks. She probably wear them with everything herself! I sometimes tease him people will think he's been in the military, because the American military does not allow soldiers to wear anything but white socks when they're on duty. Apparently there's some minute chance that dye from socks can leech into the blood stream and cause poisoning if a person's feet sweat enough. Given what military duty/training can entail, I guess they decided to play it safe. But a lot of men, even after leaving the military, just never get out of the habit!
He wears dress shirts to see clients, usually, so I've made gifts of shirts that are nicer than what he has, but not so different that he should find them off-putting in any way. And I make sure to really compliment him when he's wearing something I do think is flattering. I guess we'll see where that gets us. :o)
As far as the wedding... well, you're about to be one of less than a dozen people who knows, but I don't think we even have any mutual lj flisters, so no problem. We eloped last Friday. With all the chaos of moving and me having such a very hard time finding a job down there and some of his friends being major jerks lately and, finally, it seeming inappropriate to spend a bunch of money on a wedding with the economy so very bad... we just decided to get the license and find someone to marry us (local mayor). We had a couple of friends come as our witnesses, and had a nice dinner after. We dressed up, but not to the degree one would for a big fancy ceremony. It was nice and low key and sweet and romantic and that's all fine by me. We may have a formal ceremony later, and/or a reception of some kind. So I may still do something fun with it. The Alice idea is less appealing knowing that with Tim Burton doing a movie version there will suddenly be tons of Alice stuff out there and people who suddenly love it.
Wow, congratulations! That sounds so sweet, I've always thought that big ceremonies are rather egotistical (although saying that, I'd want a lively gypsy wedding) - I remember my cousin's first marriage was a big deal, and probably a lot of expense, but thats the kind of woman she is (of course, that marriage didn't last). And yeah I agree, Alice in Wonderland is already popular enough but now....
He definitely falls into the not so good at dressing himself category, though. My biggest projects in that area right now, honestly are trying to get him to quit wearing white socks ("but that's why my mom always bought me), and to quit wearing plaid shirts. I think he might be cute in kinda crazy plaid pants, a la Michael Hutchence in the Elegantly Wasted video, but cotton plaid shirts... they're just not flattering on him.
I think if I could even get him into nice dress shirts, trousers, and maybe wingtips (I love wingtips!) it wouldn't be less comfie than how he dresses now, but much hotter.
Any tips on how you influenced former boyfriends to dress better? I mostly take a positive approach so far... gifts, and telling him he looks particularly nice in some things, trying to gently say some things don't flatter him as much as others. I have had some success, but I'd be grateful for any tips! :o)
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I've never understood white socks!
In the past I've sort of.. just.. ended up buying them only clothes for christmas and birthdays, but in a style that THEY would like, rather than what I want them to dress like. I think I probably bullied my last boyfriend into dressing better, so that probably isn't the best way to go about it!
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He wears dress shirts to see clients, usually, so I've made gifts of shirts that are nicer than what he has, but not so different that he should find them off-putting in any way. And I make sure to really compliment him when he's wearing something I do think is flattering. I guess we'll see where that gets us. :o)
As far as the wedding... well, you're about to be one of less than a dozen people who knows, but I don't think we even have any mutual lj flisters, so no problem. We eloped last Friday. With all the chaos of moving and me having such a very hard time finding a job down there and some of his friends being major jerks lately and, finally, it seeming inappropriate to spend a bunch of money on a wedding with the economy so very bad... we just decided to get the license and find someone to marry us (local mayor). We had a couple of friends come as our witnesses, and had a nice dinner after. We dressed up, but not to the degree one would for a big fancy ceremony. It was nice and low key and sweet and romantic and that's all fine by me. We may have a formal ceremony later, and/or a reception of some kind. So I may still do something fun with it. The Alice idea is less appealing knowing that with Tim Burton doing a movie version there will suddenly be tons of Alice stuff out there and people who suddenly love it.
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Wow, congratulations! That sounds so sweet, I've always thought that big ceremonies are rather egotistical (although saying that, I'd want a lively gypsy wedding) - I remember my cousin's first marriage was a big deal, and probably a lot of expense, but thats the kind of woman she is (of course, that marriage didn't last). And yeah I agree, Alice in Wonderland is already popular enough but now....
You two look so cute!
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