Do you like asking for help? yes or no? (why?) (my facebook discussion)
Do you like asking for help? yes or no? (why?)
Most of the people I asked around said NO and the reasons were similar:
1. don’t want to bother others; (nice try to think abt others but is it really good for them not to bother?)
2. want to do it all by myself; (want to show off as a super-being, afraid of being needy)
3. It makes ppl feel vulnerable to admit that they can't do it without help
4. ppl are afraid that they wouldn't help or wouldn't do a good job.
The truth is we can't do everything by ourselves. We ideally can aim at being like a super-being.
By asking people for help, we open the doors for wonderful energy! We give others opportunity to do a good deed, to do something meaningful and helpful. It usually makes ppl feel needed, they feel good during and after helping. It develops better relationship, better friendship. It is a key to a good strong relationship, to be vulnerable and be accepted by the other (s) even in that state.
If you think of more benefits in asking for help let me know!!! Don't be afraid to ask for help!!! (it applies to myself too, it is so hard to do!!!)
As always, there must be reasonable boundaries and balance = be tactful.
Most of the people I asked around said NO and the reasons were similar:
1. don’t want to bother others; (nice try to think abt others but is it really good for them not to bother?)
2. want to do it all by myself; (want to show off as a super-being, afraid of being needy)
3. It makes ppl feel vulnerable to admit that they can't do it without help
4. ppl are afraid that they wouldn't help or wouldn't do a good job.
The truth is we can't do everything by ourselves. We ideally can aim at being like a super-being.
By asking people for help, we open the doors for wonderful energy! We give others opportunity to do a good deed, to do something meaningful and helpful. It usually makes ppl feel needed, they feel good during and after helping. It develops better relationship, better friendship. It is a key to a good strong relationship, to be vulnerable and be accepted by the other (s) even in that state.
If you think of more benefits in asking for help let me know!!! Don't be afraid to ask for help!!! (it applies to myself too, it is so hard to do!!!)
As always, there must be reasonable boundaries and balance = be tactful.