Changes
Many people like changes they have decided for.
But when they come from the other people and are caused by conciquencies - the first thing you want to do is to reject them. And if there is no chance to keep the things you like as they are, then you consider the option to go for changes but in a your way, making your own decision. Well, I don't know about many people but that's definitely about me.
My 25-years' experience has learned me to do my best to change the perception as there is no only black or only white. And even no only grey in fact.
My very wise boss keeps saying "be grateful for what you have".
For all my life I could never totally agree with this because I'm sure we have to understand we can lose everything (today we have, tomorrow we don't)... So it's better not to get that attached to what you have and just be more about doing what you love and that's it...
And also, we always should aspire to more than we have - not just being purely and calmly happy with what you have. I understand this actually doesn't contradict being grateful but I mean I've always perceived this as a very conservative, non-revolutional, stable and grown-up approach.
Since I've never wanted to be totally that rational grown-up, I didn't want to accept that and to agree.
BUT... Now, practicing my be-positive and now-and-here theory - I'm starting to understand the pure simplicity and geniousity of this statement more and more. I guess, I am getting older more experienced :)
When changes happen, we always see only the worst side - that nothing is going to be the same. But we think that nothing good is going to be the same. And never - about the devolution was going to happen.
Why do so many people live their live miserably? Because they run away from changes. And it's the precious gift of the Destiny, concequences or whatever it is - to give you them... to move on. To go out of your comfort zone. And even - to get rid of all bad things you didn't like and realised you have to leave but couldn't because you already got used to them. We embrace what we are not happy about - only because we got used to: old job you hate, the relationship that doesn't work anymore or old clothes you don't wear but can not throw away. And then changes take place. And simply make us do this. It's like learning to swim when you are thrown into the sea where you can't stand. Something makes you learn to swim. Makes you change. For better.
It all sounds really true. My only weekness is that I'm very good at theory and the challenging question is how to make it work on practice.
But when they come from the other people and are caused by conciquencies - the first thing you want to do is to reject them. And if there is no chance to keep the things you like as they are, then you consider the option to go for changes but in a your way, making your own decision. Well, I don't know about many people but that's definitely about me.
My 25-years' experience has learned me to do my best to change the perception as there is no only black or only white. And even no only grey in fact.
My very wise boss keeps saying "be grateful for what you have".
For all my life I could never totally agree with this because I'm sure we have to understand we can lose everything (today we have, tomorrow we don't)... So it's better not to get that attached to what you have and just be more about doing what you love and that's it...
And also, we always should aspire to more than we have - not just being purely and calmly happy with what you have. I understand this actually doesn't contradict being grateful but I mean I've always perceived this as a very conservative, non-revolutional, stable and grown-up approach.
Since I've never wanted to be totally that rational grown-up, I didn't want to accept that and to agree.
BUT... Now, practicing my be-positive and now-and-here theory - I'm starting to understand the pure simplicity and geniousity of this statement more and more. I guess, I am getting older more experienced :)
When changes happen, we always see only the worst side - that nothing is going to be the same. But we think that nothing good is going to be the same. And never - about the devolution was going to happen.
Why do so many people live their live miserably? Because they run away from changes. And it's the precious gift of the Destiny, concequences or whatever it is - to give you them... to move on. To go out of your comfort zone. And even - to get rid of all bad things you didn't like and realised you have to leave but couldn't because you already got used to them. We embrace what we are not happy about - only because we got used to: old job you hate, the relationship that doesn't work anymore or old clothes you don't wear but can not throw away. And then changes take place. And simply make us do this. It's like learning to swim when you are thrown into the sea where you can't stand. Something makes you learn to swim. Makes you change. For better.
It all sounds really true. My only weekness is that I'm very good at theory and the challenging question is how to make it work on practice.