a few random topics.
So ive been thinking alot about it today, randomly. And i think that male-female friendships, the majority of the time (def. not all of the time) are based off of an attraction on one level or another. for example, when looking back on my female friends, through out my life...with the exception of maybe 2 or 3, ever...ive been attracted to. Now at times it could have been on a physical level, and at other is could have been on a personal, or maybe i was attracted to the fact that they can la conversation. How many time have you been BFF with a person of the opposite sex that was HEAVILY over wait? how many time have to been BFF with someone of the opposite sex that was hard to look at? now think about how many people of the opposite sex you've been good friends with that were good looking people, maybe you weren't "in" to them. But they were attractive on one level or another. now compare and contrast the two. you will more then likely find that, for the most part, the majority of your closer friends of the opposite sex fall into the category of "attractive" on one level or another. Also, how many times how you developed feelings for a "friend" or vice versa? now think about all of the time its probably happened but the person didn't come out with their feelings for one reason or another. i suppose my point here is that its VERY rare to come across a female friend, who in ALL aspects is just a friend. on all levels. no matter what. because where ever you find that person attractive, can (in times of loneliness) evolve into feelings.
Sometimes i find it hard to accept that when i meet a girl a large portion of her friends are male, and her number of male friends greatly out number her female friends. because im so over analytical i see it the way i described above. But i also understand that there are times where it IS just a friendship. but not every person you are friends with is JUST a friend. now im not saying that we have hidden agendas or anything just that there is always a sub-conscious attraction there. Or sometimes there is an attraction that one recognizes but is in denial about, or maybe simply refuses to admit to.
Now one could argue that its all a matter of trust. and if you truly do trust someone you can put them in any environment and be comfortable. and to a degree that's true. but the way i see it, is that even though i know that the person i care for is coming home to me, and that she loves me, and that im all she thinks about...etc. it still instills a bit of discomfort to know that having so many friends of the opposite sex raises the chances of something shitty happening. even if the chances were 0%, because of the all of the friends of opposite sex it has to raise the chances. even if 1%, that's a risk im uncomfortable with.
next topic is that im so happy the direction we as a nation are headed towards. we now have a black president. Homosexuality is becoming more and more accepted every day. pro-choice is also becoming a more accepted idea. and maybe now Obama will allow science to play a large role in the world today, and allow stem cell research to continue. Granted, the world still has many many obstacles facing us, but when wont we? im just happy that since day one, slowly but surely we are making progress. and if we stay on track everything we hope for, is just a matter of time.
Sometimes i find it hard to accept that when i meet a girl a large portion of her friends are male, and her number of male friends greatly out number her female friends. because im so over analytical i see it the way i described above. But i also understand that there are times where it IS just a friendship. but not every person you are friends with is JUST a friend. now im not saying that we have hidden agendas or anything just that there is always a sub-conscious attraction there. Or sometimes there is an attraction that one recognizes but is in denial about, or maybe simply refuses to admit to.
Now one could argue that its all a matter of trust. and if you truly do trust someone you can put them in any environment and be comfortable. and to a degree that's true. but the way i see it, is that even though i know that the person i care for is coming home to me, and that she loves me, and that im all she thinks about...etc. it still instills a bit of discomfort to know that having so many friends of the opposite sex raises the chances of something shitty happening. even if the chances were 0%, because of the all of the friends of opposite sex it has to raise the chances. even if 1%, that's a risk im uncomfortable with.
next topic is that im so happy the direction we as a nation are headed towards. we now have a black president. Homosexuality is becoming more and more accepted every day. pro-choice is also becoming a more accepted idea. and maybe now Obama will allow science to play a large role in the world today, and allow stem cell research to continue. Granted, the world still has many many obstacles facing us, but when wont we? im just happy that since day one, slowly but surely we are making progress. and if we stay on track everything we hope for, is just a matter of time.