Even if what they did was a childish vanity attempt, those kind of comments are pretty creeper, and I can't say I would have reacted any differently had such things been said to my girl, even in a supposed joking manner.
that's just the thing... as far as the world was concerned.. she wasn't "your girl" anymore. no more claim[in this specific scenario]. Sorry, if you weren't in on the joke [or bet in this instance] mister... but be angry with the girl doing the experiment without your knowledge. If seeking an opportunity with someone that's now supposedly single suddenly is creepy... then I feel the better things in life will pass you by and life is too short to do that. People toss that creeper word around way too easily, in a sense i prefer being called an asshole.. which i actually am.
Basically grow the fuck up and get over insecurity. [not you]
Ben, I gotta agree with Joey on this one. No matter how obnoxiously immature they are, if that is your way of "seeking an opportunity" you may want to re-evaluate your methods.
well its ONE method of "seeking opportunities" and honestly i don't think you have the authority to say its "right" or "wrong." People who have employed the method with success. I do feel, however, that its the thought of chicken shit dudes who don't take a risk think that its creepy. Honestly you never know, for sure, how someone will take the advance until one tries... and lets say perchance that a person hesitates [due to whatever], someone else takes the risk and the opportunity. All choices are half chance. People are going to fail a great many more times than they will succeed.
bottom line: the entire "hitting on" thing was meant as a joke. while i agree its debatable if it was funny or not. [not to me,though, it was hilarious] it just boils down to an insecure little pussy who's scared that his way to hot girlfriend will leave him over a god damned FB comment. Yes, I'm passing judgment, being a filthy hypocrite, but I'm not trying to get you onto my "side," I'm merely asserting my point of view.
I didn't mean for you to misconstrue that the method is bad, I just don't think it is suitable for you/that situation. Taking initiative is definitely a good quality. But I have to ask, how successful has this method been for you? If it has caused you to lose ground with one of your best friends, I'd say not very.
And this is your lj so you're obviously welcome to post your views. You just left it open for comment, so I assumed you might want some feedback, lol.
For me? tbh... i haven't personally done it [lies! i just did], but i have witnessed it happen and work. i was just saying that it is one method. having said that. It's clearly a case of a joke gone awry. I mean it wasn't rocket surgery, most people saw it as a joke. As for losing ground? The biggest consequence [so far] was I'm not allowed in the house anymore. She's moving out anyway and I'm coming back to California... so when she gets a new place, i can try to get banned from there as well. which will be a major challenge as i get along with her future roommates quite swimmingly, as you can imagine i do with MOST people.
the reason for this entry was to vent out what caused me to feel angry. i honestly don't know what Joseph's point/purpose was for his comment, but it brought nothing to the table. it wasn't feedback. it was more like "I'd do the same thing to you despite us being friends for 9 years [if you did that to me]" how else can it be read? I mean, the guy doesn't talk to me for months and this is what he says to me.
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Basically grow the fuck up and get over insecurity. [not you]
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bottom line: the entire "hitting on" thing was meant as a joke. while i agree its debatable if it was funny or not. [not to me,though, it was hilarious] it just boils down to an insecure little pussy who's scared that his way to hot girlfriend will leave him over a god damned FB comment. Yes, I'm passing judgment, being a filthy hypocrite, but I'm not trying to get you onto my "side," I'm merely asserting my point of view.
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And this is your lj so you're obviously welcome to post your views. You just left it open for comment, so I assumed you might want some feedback, lol.
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the reason for this entry was to vent out what caused me to feel angry. i honestly don't know what Joseph's point/purpose was for his comment, but it brought nothing to the table. it wasn't feedback. it was more like "I'd do the same thing to you despite us being friends for 9 years [if you did that to me]" how else can it be read? I mean, the guy doesn't talk to me for months and this is what he says to me.
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