*sigh* If it weren't for all the squicky misperceptions, I'd say bisexuals get the best of both worlds. :)
Haha. Well...sometimes I think we do. XD Though it's not like I chose this, but it is kind of handy. Although, you know, the window of available partners is really not that much bigger, because lots of straight guys and gay girls are squicked out by the thought, and then of course there's the ridiculously large contingent of people who persistently believe that we're just confused/greedy/afraid to come all the way out. But...yeah, we do get to appreciate a little more of humanity. :)
And there's nothing wrong with deciding not to come out to someone.
Ahhhhhh, that's nice to hear. ::phew:: I still worry that when I make an executive decision not to come out to the guy on the corner with the shotgun shouting about hellbound sodomites, I'm being, oh, ashamed or cowardly or something. But that's a wonderful bit of information to know, coming from someone a little more practised at this whole gay thing than I am. :) Thank you! ::glomp::
Unless they're drunk or it's Pride. Yay Pride! :)
::giggles again:: I have yet to see that happen. Must be fun. ::makes plans to sneak away to a pride parade::
Although, you know, the window of available partners is really not that much bigger, because lots of straight guys and gay girls are squicked out by the thought, and then of course there's the ridiculously large contingent of people who persistently believe that we're just confused/greedy/afraid to come all the way out.
Think of it as a way of conveniently eliminating the not-cool people from your pool of potential partners before you even start. :D
I still worry that when I make an executive decision not to come out to the guy on the corner with the shotgun shouting about hellbound sodomites, I'm being, oh, ashamed or cowardly or something. But that's a wonderful bit of information to know, coming from someone a little more practised at this whole gay thing than I am. :) Thank you! ::glomp::
*glomps back* :) I think not coming out to the guy on the corner with the shotgun (scary much? *shudder*) is the only sensible choice. Even sans the shotgun, I wouldn't want to do it; you're not going to change his mind, and you put your safety at risk.
There seems to be a feeling in some quarters that we have a duty to be out, out, out, all the time and to everyone, regardless of the consequences. I don't buy it. You have to do what's right for you, and sometimes that means staying in the closet in certain situations.
Must be fun. ::makes plans to sneak away to a pride parade::
::falls about giggling::
*sigh* If it weren't for all the squicky misperceptions, I'd say bisexuals get the best of both worlds. :)
Haha. Well...sometimes I think we do. XD Though it's not like I chose this, but it is kind of handy. Although, you know, the window of available partners is really not that much bigger, because lots of straight guys and gay girls are squicked out by the thought, and then of course there's the ridiculously large contingent of people who persistently believe that we're just confused/greedy/afraid to come all the way out. But...yeah, we do get to appreciate a little more of humanity. :)
And there's nothing wrong with deciding not to come out to someone.
Ahhhhhh, that's nice to hear. ::phew:: I still worry that when I make an executive decision not to come out to the guy on the corner with the shotgun shouting about hellbound sodomites, I'm being, oh, ashamed or cowardly or something. But that's a wonderful bit of information to know, coming from someone a little more practised at this whole gay thing than I am. :) Thank you! ::glomp::
Unless they're drunk or it's Pride. Yay Pride! :)
::giggles again:: I have yet to see that happen. Must be fun. ::makes plans to sneak away to a pride parade::
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Think of it as a way of conveniently eliminating the not-cool people from your pool of potential partners before you even start. :D
I still worry that when I make an executive decision not to come out to the guy on the corner with the shotgun shouting about hellbound sodomites, I'm being, oh, ashamed or cowardly or something. But that's a wonderful bit of information to know, coming from someone a little more practised at this whole gay thing than I am. :) Thank you! ::glomp::
*glomps back* :) I think not coming out to the guy on the corner with the shotgun (scary much? *shudder*) is the only sensible choice. Even sans the shotgun, I wouldn't want to do it; you're not going to change his mind, and you put your safety at risk.
There seems to be a feeling in some quarters that we have a duty to be out, out, out, all the time and to everyone, regardless of the consequences. I don't buy it. You have to do what's right for you, and sometimes that means staying in the closet in certain situations.
Must be fun. ::makes plans to sneak away to a pride parade::
I marched in the last one here. Is fun. :)
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