That is the phase that just ticked me off!!!! Oh I hated to hear 'no' when you know they want something!!!
I did get both Andrew and David broken from it, but man was it a long few months before it went away totally. Pretty much when I knew one of them wanted something, I wouldn't give it to them if they: a) Whined b) Cried c) Yelled d) Said "no"
I cannot tell you how many times that I would say "You have to say 'yes' if you want it" and walk away with whatever it was that they wanted. Eventually I'd get one or two 'no' replies but they'd give in and say 'yes' because they couldn't get it any other way.
It was harder on me than it was on them! I had to calmly explain each time that they could not get what they wanted unless they said 'yes' and eventually 'yes please' Most of the time I wanted to throw something, but after about 3 or 4 weeks I finally managed to stay calm around them as they did it. Either that or I'd try to laugh at their antics, mostly because it was laugh or cry.
The time outs are good if you need to calm down, but I found (if you want to try this method) that simply ignoring and walking away worked better. It's harder with food, but putting him in his chair and making him eat is what we do too. If he really wants it, he's going to come after you.
I did get both Andrew and David broken from it, but man was it a long few months before it went away totally. Pretty much when I knew one of them wanted something, I wouldn't give it to them if they:
a) Whined
b) Cried
c) Yelled
d) Said "no"
I cannot tell you how many times that I would say "You have to say 'yes' if you want it" and walk away with whatever it was that they wanted. Eventually I'd get one or two 'no' replies but they'd give in and say 'yes' because they couldn't get it any other way.
It was harder on me than it was on them! I had to calmly explain each time that they could not get what they wanted unless they said 'yes' and eventually 'yes please' Most of the time I wanted to throw something, but after about 3 or 4 weeks I finally managed to stay calm around them as they did it. Either that or I'd try to laugh at their antics, mostly because it was laugh or cry.
The time outs are good if you need to calm down, but I found (if you want to try this method) that simply ignoring and walking away worked better. It's harder with food, but putting him in his chair and making him eat is what we do too. If he really wants it, he's going to come after you.
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