well, i can identify with the long distance deal in some ways. i offer advice from experience about how my boyfriend and i of a year and a half make it... it may or may not work for you, but we've found this stuff to be very effective in dealing with the distance.
my boyfriend and i don't live that far apart... it's only 2 hours, but with gas prices being what they are and jobs being hard to find for the both of us, it's as if we were much much further away.
we make it through, though. every day is different. some days it's okay, we're fine when we don't see eachother. other days it's HORRIBLE, really hard, and we feel desperately sad. so it will NOT be easy. don't let anyone tell you that stuff about "if it's true love it'll be easy!" that's not how it is. it may be true love but it will still take work, just like any relationship will, to keep up.
we truly believe that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. we keep in touch as much as we possibly can and clue eachother in on what's going on in our everyday lives. even the miniscule stuff. basically what i'm saying is, communication becomes an even BIGGER role when it's long distance, because that's the main way the relationship will exist.
he and i connect through communication so well and so often that we've been going strong like this for a little under a year now with few problems. it hasn't been completely problem free... we've had our fights, and every couple should fight a little bit. without disagreements, someone's views aren't being expressed. we do get to see eachother at decent intervals, never longer than 3 weeks. but every goodbye is hard, especially when the visits are only for 1 or 2 days.
if it's possible for you to visit, do so. and the key to visiting: don't try to jam pack too much stuff into them, but do plan out what you want to do ahead of time. make the most of the time you have together without overplanning, ya know?
i'm just kind of talking randomly now, so i'll quiet down :) if you want to know more or have any questions or anything at all, drop me a line in my journal :D
my boyfriend and i don't live that far apart... it's only 2 hours, but with gas prices being what they are and jobs being hard to find for the both of us, it's as if we were much much further away.
we make it through, though. every day is different. some days it's okay, we're fine when we don't see eachother. other days it's HORRIBLE, really hard, and we feel desperately sad. so it will NOT be easy. don't let anyone tell you that stuff about "if it's true love it'll be easy!" that's not how it is. it may be true love but it will still take work, just like any relationship will, to keep up.
we truly believe that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. we keep in touch as much as we possibly can and clue eachother in on what's going on in our everyday lives. even the miniscule stuff. basically what i'm saying is, communication becomes an even BIGGER role when it's long distance, because that's the main way the relationship will exist.
he and i connect through communication so well and so often that we've been going strong like this for a little under a year now with few problems. it hasn't been completely problem free... we've had our fights, and every couple should fight a little bit. without disagreements, someone's views aren't being expressed. we do get to see eachother at decent intervals, never longer than 3 weeks. but every goodbye is hard, especially when the visits are only for 1 or 2 days.
if it's possible for you to visit, do so. and the key to visiting: don't try to jam pack too much stuff into them, but do plan out what you want to do ahead of time. make the most of the time you have together without overplanning, ya know?
i'm just kind of talking randomly now, so i'll quiet down :) if you want to know more or have any questions or anything at all, drop me a line in my journal :D
good luck!
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