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[malicealice13]

i'm 17(female), i've never kissed anyone and i've never been in a relationship. earlier today my friend (male) told me how he feels. he said that he has feelings for me and he is scared that i don't feel the same, he says it makes him feel empty. i really don't know what to do. can anyone help?

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[hoodwink]

Hi there...

How do you feel about this friend? Just because he likes you doesn't mean you have to like him back or date him. But don't pretend to like him just so his feelings don't get hurt, though. Just be honest with him--but gentle.

Maybe this is your chance to get your first kiss:) Maybe this is your chance to enter the dating world. but its up to you. You could tell him that you would like to get to know him in that way but you don't want anything serious. You can date someone for fun and then it leaves your options open so you can date other guys too. You do not have to become a couple right away.

Are you ready to date? How do you feel about him? There are things you need to think about.

Good luck!

*hugs*
Becky

[malicealice13]

It amazes me how completely unready i am for these things. I'm not really interested in this dating world. i feel lonely sometimes, like i need someone with me. or sometimes when i see couples i want it. other than that i have no interest. i am more of a loner i suppose. i don't think i like him, but my friend has been pushing him on me. this girl i talk to, she is constantly saying we should get together. He is a really great guy, and i wouldn't want anything to change between us. i like the way things are now. it only bothers me when he trys to hold my hand. we watch anime alot, and sometimes he just goes for my hand.. i'm not comfortable with that. when i pull a way, he starts begging and saying no no.. He's not stupid, though i know that may make him sound slow. i guess he just really needs someone and wants it to be me.

thanks for the advice.

[disgruntal_goat]

Don't go out with a guy because your friends want you to go out with him. When you are ready to date, you will know.
If it makes ya feel any better. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 19 or 20. I wasn't ready for a relationship. My friends hinted that they wanted to hook me up, but they respected that I didn't want to be.
Don't do anything that you don't want to do!!

[atrivus]

I agree entirely. I'm 22 and only had one brief relationship, but my friends are constantly trying to push me into going out with somebody, hooking me up, etc. The bottom line is, I never was ready to go out with anyone, and all the harassment in the world from friends can't change that. If you're not ready or not interested, don't let them push you.

Most likely, your friends are doing it because they care and because they think that your reason for not dating anyone is self-esteem or confidence issues of some kind. But they can't dictate your life for you. You have to find relationships at your own pace.