You are going to be changing a lot in the next few years. and in any relationship, the couple either grows together or grows apart. It sounds like although you do care about him, you are moving in another direction from him.
Your relationship sounds stable and safe but boring too. Not because you don't want to have sex, because that's your choice and there are plenty of guys willing to wait, but because you have lost the passion and the spark and have said you think you'd just be better off as friends.
You're already stating reasons why you don't believe you are right for one another, as well as reasons for why you don't believe there is much of a future for you both as a couple.
Stop leading him on if you don't see a future with him. Breaking it off now, before it goes any further, is the best thing you can do for him and for you. Both of you deserve the chance to heal and then move on to other people who are better suited for you. Don't drag things out.
Lastly, don't expect to stay friends if you do break up. Some people can be friends, some cannot. There is no right or wrong answer. Everyone has a different comfort level and perhaps it's too painful for one person to be friends with someone they loved, while someone else takes it as a learning experience and adds to their friend base. He doesn't have to be your friend. You cannot have your cake and eat it too as the saying goes.
You're young. Maybe you need this time apart from him to see what you're missing or maybe you need this to grow and change and to find someone else.
You are going to be changing a lot in the next few years. and in any relationship, the couple either grows together or grows apart. It sounds like although you do care about him, you are moving in another direction from him.
Your relationship sounds stable and safe but boring too. Not because you don't want to have sex, because that's your choice and there are plenty of guys willing to wait, but because you have lost the passion and the spark and have said you think you'd just be better off as friends.
You're already stating reasons why you don't believe you are right for one another, as well as reasons for why you don't believe there is much of a future for you both as a couple.
Stop leading him on if you don't see a future with him. Breaking it off now, before it goes any further, is the best thing you can do for him and for you. Both of you deserve the chance to heal and then move on to other people who are better suited for you. Don't drag things out.
Lastly, don't expect to stay friends if you do break up. Some people can be friends, some cannot. There is no right or wrong answer. Everyone has a different comfort level and perhaps it's too painful for one person to be friends with someone they loved, while someone else takes it as a learning experience and adds to their friend base. He doesn't have to be your friend. You cannot have your cake and eat it too as the saying goes.
You're young. Maybe you need this time apart from him to see what you're missing or maybe you need this to grow and change and to find someone else.
Good Luck!
~Becky
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