Hey, I'm a young divorced female too. I started dating a guy I had known previously at 18, got engaged at 19, married at 20, separated at 21 and divorced at 22 and now at 23 I'm remarried with a 6 month old and way happier than I was before. My situation isn't the same as yours except for our ages, it was easier for me to move on because our relationship wasn't great and I allowed myself to be convinced that marriage west the best thing for us since his parents were opposed to living together unmarried. I'm over my feelings for my ex-husband but I'm still healing for the turmoil I went through in my first marriage. My biggest problem with my ex is that he was shitty husband in general, never acted like he loved me and wanted to be married to me, but when I told him I was living it was a year's worth of dramatics and tears and shit talking me to other people including my own friends. He was begging me to stay and when I started a new relationship during our separation he claimed that I had never told him I intended on leaving and that I was committed adultery, this AFTER he signed the separation agreement and the divorced had ALREADY been finalized for over a month. I know it hurts to fail, but please see this as an opportunity to act on the things you wouldn't have been able to do if you were still married. And trust me, speaking from experience. Once you have gone through a shitty marriage, you really learn to appreciate a good marriage when you are in one. I would not be able to appreciate how great my husband is now, had it not been for the things I learned the first time around. We are still young enough to start anew.
Well I guess it's good to hear I'm not the only one who ever went through all of that at a young age. I don't see myself in another relationship for a while, but that's just me. I'm not mad at him at all for wanting another relationship.. that's his style.
Well, I'm glad you seem really happy : ) I hope I get over all this soon too.
My situation isn't the same as yours except for our ages, it was easier for me to move on because our relationship wasn't great and I allowed myself to be convinced that marriage west the best thing for us since his parents were opposed to living together unmarried. I'm over my feelings for my ex-husband but I'm still healing for the turmoil I went through in my first marriage. My biggest problem with my ex is that he was shitty husband in general, never acted like he loved me and wanted to be married to me, but when I told him I was living it was a year's worth of dramatics and tears and shit talking me to other people including my own friends. He was begging me to stay and when I started a new relationship during our separation he claimed that I had never told him I intended on leaving and that I was committed adultery, this AFTER he signed the separation agreement and the divorced had ALREADY been finalized for over a month.
I know it hurts to fail, but please see this as an opportunity to act on the things you wouldn't have been able to do if you were still married. And trust me, speaking from experience. Once you have gone through a shitty marriage, you really learn to appreciate a good marriage when you are in one. I would not be able to appreciate how great my husband is now, had it not been for the things I learned the first time around. We are still young enough to start anew.
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Well, I'm glad you seem really happy : ) I hope I get over all this soon too.
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