This is meant in the most sincere and inoffensive way possible.
24, female
I have this problem I want to get over because it’s really starting worry me that I’m going nuts and being totally OC. Please keep in mind that I can only give really my POV of events, even though I did go through many sessions of talking to all parties involved, so they will be biased.
About a year ago exactly my boyfriend cheated on ( Read more... )
It sucks that all this had to happen (really it does) but you can't keep dwelling on it or the anger will never go away. I know how it can be to obsess over something that's gone completely and utterly wrong. It just keeps hurting you over and over. I am the type of person that holds a grudge. but eventually I have had to move on or everything would just destroy me. and those around me. It wasn't worth it.
I can't make the hatred go away that you are feeling and I'm not saying you should stop hating her. but you shouldn't put so much energy into it. Yes, you hate her, yes she did do a lot of damage, but moving on with your life (while always hating her), doesn't make you a bad person. You should focus more on rebuilding your life, your relationship, and whatever else really matters to you. I believe that the more focus you put on the hatred, the more you'll suffer, the more the shit will keep coming back into your life.
Focus on more positive energies. Focus on a better future. Stay busy with things that matter to you. and if you happen to run into that girl, just stay neutral. Breathe. All of the advice sounds very cliche but sometimes that's all we have. The rest is up to you. If you want to stop thinking and obsessing over what happened...you have to make the choice to do so.
I think that even though you've worked things out with your boyfriend, it may not be all that healthy to stay with him if you can't move on with your life. but that's just my opinion.
Hang in there, time does help in the healing process.
~Becky
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